Beyond What Hurts Us

To start off Season 2, Kristen and Pecolia delve into the crucial topic of setting boundaries when faced with red flags in our personal and professional relationships. Whether it's a toxic friend, an overbearing family member, or a manipulative coworker, recognizing and establishing boundaries is essential for maintaining our well-being and fostering healthy connections.

In this week's episode, Kristen and Pecolia embark on a fascinating journey to understand the primal survival responses that reside within us all: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. Join us as we delve into the depths of these instinctive behaviors and explore their profound impact on our everyday lives.

Discover how the fight response taps into your inner strength and courage, empowering you to face challenges head-on. Explore the flight response and how it guides you to seek safety and escape from threatening situations. Uncover the freeze response and its role in immobilizing us when we feel overwhelmed or threatened. Lastly, we shed light on the fawn response, a lesser-known survival instinct that involves seeking safety through appeasement and compliance. Gain insights into how your instincts influence your interactions with others and shapes your relationships.

Through relatable stories, practical examples, and personal insights, we uncover the hidden mechanisms behind each survival response. By unraveling the code of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, you'll gain valuable insights into your own behaviors and reactions.

Betrayal Trauma can leave deep, unseen wounds that can be difficult to identify and heal. In this episode, we explore the impact of betrayal trauma, how it can manifest in our lives, and the importance of recognizing it to reduce its power.

We discuss the different forms of betrayal trauma and how we've seen it play out in our own lives. Through this conversation, we hope to shed light on the unseen wounds of betrayal trauma and empower listeners to recognize and address their own experiences.

Join us as we dive deep into this important and often overlooked topic of betrayal trauma and its impact on our lives.

In this episode, we'll explore the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when we become parents and are confronted with our own parental trauma. Whether we experienced neglect, abuse, or other forms of trauma at the hands of our own caregivers, these experiences can profoundly impact our approach to parenting. Through personal stories, we'll delve into the ways that our past can shape our present, and discuss strategies for breaking the cycle of generational trauma. Join us as we examine the complexities of parenting through our own parental trauma, and discover how to build healthy, loving relationships with our children despite the challenges.

Join us this week for a special guest as we talk about navigating a co-parenting relationship with a difficult ex. We share strategies for protecting your peace and focusing on what's truly important.

Divorce is a highly personal decision that rarely comes lightly. Join Kristen and Pecolia as they talk about how to navigate life before, during and after a divorce.

This week, Kristen and Pecolia explore the complex subject of cheating. Why do people do it? What are some signs your significant other is cheating? Join us as we discuss.

Are they genuinely trying to get to know you? Or are they simply trying to be a better player at the game? Join Kristen and Pecolia this week as they discuss how increasing your Relationship Intelligence can help protect your heart and your brain against high conflict individuals.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that involves an abuser making the victim doubt their own perceptions and reality. This can be done by denying the victim's experiences, emotions, and memories, and instead imposing the abuser's own version of events as the "truth." The goal of gaslighting is often to make the victim feel confused, helpless, and dependent on the perpetrator. Let's talk about how to identify gaslighting and what to do when you're ready to confront the gaslighter.

Do you know the difference between red flags and green flags? Can you put a name to green flags? In this week's episode, Kristen and Pecolia talk about what they consider green flags in the people around them.