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The emerging adult - now recognized as “the third stage of life.” 

Our guest today says that studying the emerging adult years (about age 19-29) is much like studying the preschool years — the preschool years set the stage for the teen years, and the emerging adult years set the stage for the future adulthood.  

Today we talk with Dr. Larry Nelson, one of the world’s leading researchers on the emerging adult years. Dr. Nelson is the president of the Study of Emerging Adulthood (SSEA) and examines factors that contribute to flourishing or floundering during this time. He has published over 70 peer-reviewed journal articles and chapters in edited books on topics including conceptions of adulthood, social withdrawal, and the role of parents and culture in the transition to adulthood.

Here are some things you will learn from today’s episode:

• Why is this period of life critical to setting the stage for the adult years?
• What role do parents play during this stage of life? 
• What are the signals for the flourishing and/or floundering young adult?
• Why our generation might not have done it “right.”
• How this stage of life is dealt with in many other parts of the world, and how we can learn from them.
  …and more
  To learn more about the emerging adult and Dr. Nelson, here are some informative links:
• Society for the Study of Emerging Adulthood
• Flourishing in Emerging Adulthood, book by Dr. Nelson
• Distinguishing Features of Emerging Adulthood: The Role of Self-Classification as an Adult

We are anxious to hear your thoughts once you have listened to the episode.

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Today we talk about the COVID-19 Outbreak and the rise of anxiety and depression in young adults. 

We know we are all tired of hearing and reading about COVID-19. But this article in the New York Times caught our attention:  Young Adults Report Rising Levels  of Anxiety and Depression in Pandemic 

We reached out to the lead author of the study, Mark Czeisler, to talk more about it. Mark is actually younger than many of our adult children, but at 25 years old, he's an accomplished researcher and provided an insightful and impressive interview. 

He is one of a group of scientists (four from Harvard and one from the University of Melbourne) involved in the COPE Initiative. COPE, which stands for COVID-19 Outbreak Public Evaluation Initiative, assesses public attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs related to the coronavirus disease and the pandemic. The goal is to evaluate mental and behavioral health during the pandemic. 

Mark is well-spoken and takes us behind the scenes of this study, underscoring the way emerging adults have been affected -- maybe for the long-term -- by the global pandemic. 

He provides suggestions on how we might support our young adult children and also shares some interesting trends in mental health programs, both at the corporate and governmental levels, that were initiated by this study.

We think you will enjoy this - and it is a short one!

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Today we speak with Kerrie Lee Brown, the author of the book My Heart, My Self: A Guide for Women Who Do Too Much.   

Are you a people pleaser?   Do you do too much and neglect yourself?  

This episode is for you.

 Does it relate to building healthy relationships with your adult children? 
You bet it does. 

Taking care of yourself and your health and learning to say "no," are the exact things that make us good parents - for our children at any age,

Kerrie's story spoke to us. We hope it speaks to you.  

 She also founded an online platform called RedLily, a bold new brand that dedicated to women who want to share their stories and support each other. Kerri believes that each of us have stories to tell. 

Denise shared a special story on the RedLily platform and will share it with listeners when it goes live.

Today we are sharing Kerrie’s remarkable story that started her on a journey to helping women around the world tell their own stories and live their best lives. 

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Happy Father's Day.  We hope many father's (and even mother's) listen and take this episode to heart.  It's a good one!

Today, we welcome Dr. Deryl Goldenberg. We learned about him when we saw an article he wrote called: “The Psychology Behind Strained Father and Son Relationships.” With many years of  working with men in therapy, the issues that come up with careers or relationships can often be traced back to their lack of a relationship with their fathers.

 Goldenberg is a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years in private practice.  He is also the Executive Director of the Verdugo Hills Autism Project, a non-public agency providing intervention services to children with emotional and developmental disorders. 

 Today, in honor of Father’s Day we want to talk about the father’s role in the life of the emerging adult child.  We tend to focus so much on mothers, and the father is behind the curtain or many times silent.

We talk about so many things and his thoughtful answers can apply to nearly any relationship in our lives.  To become a surgeon, carpenter or teacher takes time, practice and work, he says - but so do relationships. 

For a strong relationship to develop a father has to be interested in really knowing their child - whatever their life choices.  This reminded us a bit about our conversation with Rosjke Hasseldine, when she spoke about "understanding" one another.  You do  not have to agree, but work to understand.  If you missed it, here is a link to that episode.
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We sharing our LGBTQ+ episode that we dropped in Season I for Pride Month.  It remains one of our favorite episodes.

We hope you will listen.

Here are the episode notes from the earlier episode:

Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode."

For this episode - I plead with everyone to listen and share it.  

Many of us think we are progressive and accepting, but to step into someone's shoes helps us learn so much more.  This episode is NOT JUST FOR PARENTS of LGBTQ+ children, but for ALL OF US.  Let me know what you think.
 
Today I speak with Levi Teachey, who is the Board President of PFLAG Denver, and Stacey Shigaya, who is the organization's Board Secretary.

Levi shares his very personal journey as a trans man and Stacey shares her journey both as an ally within the LGBTQ+ community and with her daughter who is pansexual.

We discuss both their stories and the rapidly changing landscape of this community.  Planned Parenthood writes: "Understanding the words, and the labels people use encourages respect and understanding."

Please share the episode with friends and family who you think might benefit.

Stacey and Levi also shared these documents which I found very helpful:

Glossary of Terms (https://pflag.org/glossary)
Faith FAQs (https://pflag.org/faithfaq)
Becoming a Trans Ally 101 (https://pflag.org/transally101recording)

Finally, Levi ends each of his emails with this phrase -- "courage, kindness and lasting change," -- keep it handy!

PFLAG is a national organization founded in 1972 by Jeanne Manford, who marched with her son, in a gay pride parade in New York, with a sign that read: "Parents of Gays Unite."  It has become one of the most important organizations building support for friends and families of the LGBTQ+ community.  

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Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE: The Podcast.

You asked for it!  This is another episode that answers a listener question!

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This is a quick a very quick refresher course on understanding the LGBTQ+ pronouns and language

About a year ago we had  of our most emotional episodes about understanding LGBTQ+ with Levi Teachey, President of P-Flag Denver and Stacy Shigaway, a parent of a pansexual daughter.

Even since that episode things have changed.  We can't seem to keep our  pronouns and language straight for this ever-changing community.

Our listeners asked for a refresher and we are happy to oblige. And we found the perfect guest. 

Denise was in LA recently visiting her daughter.  She took a walk with a friend and a young 20-something person joined the group who identified as non-binary, using the pronoun “they.”  Denise was  tripping over her tongue the entire walk and finally at the end she asked they if they might join us on the podcast.  They agreed and here we are.

They is concise and articulate. 

Here is a link to the article we discuss:  What Quakers Can Teach Us About the Politics of Pronouns.

This may be from WIKI, but we found this helpful as well. Print it out and work on learning these new and important pronouns. 

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We are on it!  Today we are talking about mothers and daughters!

And it begins with the burnt hamburger.  But more about that in today’s episode.  You will have to listen.

A listener wrote: Where have you been for the last 15 years? I have been searching for books, podcasts, and the internet for some real support on parenting adult children. Nothing.” 

The listener proceeded to ask if we might explore more about the mother/daughter relationship and expressed some of the struggles she was having with her own adult daughters.

In her message she said that she imagined that as she and her daughter got older, they would become closer. But instead, she feels like she is biting her tongue all the time,

Denise and Ellen welcomed Rosjke Hasseldine, an internationally recognized mother-daughter therapist with over 20 years listening to women and girls from around the world talk about their lives and relationships. 

Rosjke is the creator of the Mother-Daughter Coaching Model which uncovers and explains the hidden dynamics between mothers and daughters. She is also the author of two books - "The Silent Female Scream'' and "The Mother-Daughter Puzzle".   

Visit Mother Daughter Coaching International  for information about Hasseldine, her books, training courses, and free articles and videos.  

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Today Denise and Ellen welcome Michelle Martinez, who is not only a Certified Wedding Consultant, with more than 20 years in the wedding and events industry, but also the creator and host of the world's mosts popular wedding podcast - The Big Wedding Planning Podcast. With 300 episodes under her belt and nearly three million downloads, she's been around the block a few times!

Ellen's daughter is getting married so Ellen has some inside scoop on some of her issues. Michelle helps us see the whole picture, what are role is of parents - of the bride or the groom and underscores her three missions:

• Inclusivity is key
• Perfection is a myth
• Wedding planning for all

It seems to all come back to what Julie Dolan told us in our grand-parenting episode about being the loving and loyal servant.

We talk about:

• The role of the bride and groom's family
• How the bride's family can help the groom's family feel more comfortable
• The role of the newly engaged couple
• Guest lists
• Finances 
• and more

If you are in the stages of wedding planning and don't have the budget for a big time wedding planner, Michelle now offers a masterclass on her website.  A tiny percent of what a full wedding planner would cost.  Check it out her Master Class offer here.

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You asked for it! 

This episode is dedicated to the often-complicated relationship with mothers-in-laws and their daughter-in-laws.

If you’ve ever felt slighted or wanted more connection than the other is willing to give -  this is the episode for you!

For several months listeners have asked us to find someone who could talk to us about the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law dynamic.   So many layers to all of this.  We did some searching and this episode features our interview with  Dr. Deanna Brann. Dr. Deanna, as she likes to be called, is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and is a leading expert in the area of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships. She works with women involved in this pivotal yet particularly challenging relationship, and has helped women nationwide to restore hope and bring healing to their families.

She is the author of the popular book,  Reluctantly Related: Breaking Free of the Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in Law Conflict.

What you will love about the book and her website is that there are questionnaires to help you identify your personality type as well as your daughter-in-law's.  Then she provides steps to help you improve or enhance your relationship.

She provides great insight for all of you who are mother-in-laws to first look inside yourself. Examine what YOU may be contributing.  Take the highroad.

You may also enjoy some of the information on her YOUTUBE channel.

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Today Ellen and Denise  welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something.  In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of my patients being parents of millennials.”  So she’s got both sides of the story for us. 

Tess has been featured in major media throughout the US  - from the New York Times to O Magazine.  So, we are pretty excited to have her with us today.

In that recent CNBC article, she says that the number one complaint parents have about their adult kids is money.  With that lead, we thought we’d challenge Tess with helping us with constructive strategies for the TOP 10 issues between adult kids and their parents. 

Listen to hear what she says.  We talk about:

• How she became a millennial therapist
• Social Media:  Keeping up with the Jones'
• How are millennials different from our generation
• What is it about this generation that no other generation has experienced before?
• Why is this stage of emerging adults so difficult?

Tess Brigham Coaching
YouTube Channel - lots of tips and tricks

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