There's a viral online narrative right now that is quietly turning women against men, against partnership, and against marriage. 

In this episode, I’m breaking down where this cultural shift started, why it’s getting louder, and how it’s affecting women who actually want love, partnership, and a God-centered relationship.

We talk about:

• Why married women aren’t unhappy because of marriage, but because of the identity they brought into it
• How a single meme about the mortgage prank sparked a wave of defensiveness
• Why the “embarrassing to have a boyfriend” article is misleading thousands of women
• How influencers are getting their data from the unhappy, not the healthy
• The enemy’s agenda to divide men and women through the algorithm
• Why women who want partnership should not let online noise shape their identity
• The real heart and identity issues behind relationship fear today
• What happens when you heal your identity before choosing a partner
• How God designed connection, not isolation
• Why marriage isn’t broken – people are
• And how you can restore clarity, confidence, and hope in your love life again

If you’re a single woman who desires real partnership…
If you’re tired of the cultural noise telling you men are dangerous and marriage is outdated…
If you want a God-led, identity-led perspective on love…

This episode will feel like a deep breath.

Marriage is not the problem. Broken identity is.
And when identity is healed, love becomes safe again.

If you’re a woman who knows she is meant for more, who has already proven her capability, and who wants the internal certainty to match the life she’s creating, The Identity Reset guide explains exactly how to do it. Click here to download the free guide. 

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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Most women think their dating patterns come from bad luck, bad timing or a reflection of the “kind of men out there.”
But what if the pattern isn’t in the men at all?
What if the pattern is in you… specifically, in the identity you bring into relationships?

This week’s episode walks you through a real client story that will make you rethink everything you’ve ever believed about attraction, compatibility, and why you end up doing all the work.

You will hear about:

• A high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who kept dating the same man in a different body.
• The moment she realized she was once again planning, paying, pleasing and performing.
• Why “chemistry” can be a trap for women who learned to earn love.
• The hidden identity that makes successful women over-function in dating.
• What happens when you remove the identity that works for love and install one that simply receives it.
• The quiet dissolving of her old attraction patterns, without willpower or forcing it.
• The surprising shift in how her partner began showing up once she changed.

This episode will challenge you to ask yourself:

Are you attracting under-functioning men, or are you showing up as the identity that under-functions for them?

You’ll learn how identity-level work rewires your deepest relational patterns, makes receiving feel natural instead of risky, and eliminates your subconscious attraction to “potential” men who drain you.

If you’ve ever felt like:

• You are tired of doing everything
• You always attract men who need help
• You lose your softness around men you like
• You are stuck between longing for love and resenting the work of it

…this episode will feel like someone finally turned on the light in a room you’ve been stumbling through for years.

By the end, you’ll understand why the right men don’t see you as work.
They see you as a privilege, a prize, and an investment.
But they can only see it when you see it first.

Press play. Your future self will thank you. 

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What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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In this episode, I reveal what’s really happening beneath that reaction and how your subconscious can mistake emotional safety for danger. Drawing inspiration from the story of Hiro Onoda, the Japanese soldier who refused to surrender decades after the war ended, she explains how your brain can do the same thing: keep fighting to protect you long after the threat is gone.

You’ll learn:

• Why masculine energy can trigger old survival codes in your nervous system
• How your subconscious repeats emotional patterns that once kept you safe
• The powerful 2-session breakthrough that helped one client feel relaxed, lovable, and calm around men for the first time in years
• How to retrain your brain to feel safe with love, connection, and presence

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still can’t relax and receive, this episode will show you exactly why—and how to change it.

When your subconscious stops fighting old battles, love becomes effortless.

Click here to get The ReProgram For Love audio files. 

Click here for the full show notes.

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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In today’s episode, I challenge one of the most common misconceptions in personal development: the idea that you can heal shame.

I explain why emotions like shame, guilt, and fear aren’t wounds that need healing — they’re messages from your subconscious, designed to protect you.
But when those emotional patterns get stuck, they stop protecting you and start limiting you.

🔍 In This Episode, You’ll Learn

• Why you can’t heal emotions — and what they’re actually trying to tell you
• The difference between feeling shame momentarily and living in it
• How shame serves as a biological “stop signal” designed to keep you safe
• What happens when shame becomes a learned emotional habit
• The four subconscious roots of emotion: memory, meaning, perception, and belief
• How transforming your subconscious identity releases stuck emotions automatically

🧠 Key Insight
“You don’t heal shame. You transform the part of you that believed it needed to feel it.”

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What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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You don’t need a man to regulate your nervous system — you need to reprogram the beliefs that make love feel unsafe.

In this episode, I reveal why emotional safety isn’t something you get from a partner but something your subconscious creates. 

You’ll learn how your love blueprint shapes attraction, why calm men can feel “boring,” and how to retrain your mind so healthy love finally feels natural

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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Have you ever felt like the pain of your past relationships is sneaking into your present one—even when you know you’ve found something good? In this episode, I share two powerful client transformation stories that reveal how subconscious work can dissolve old beliefs and free you to fully experience love in the present.

Using Core Transformation and the Self-Concept Model, we explore how unresolved fears, betrayals, or unhealthy behavior patterns can sabotage even the healthiest relationships—and how to rewire your subconscious so your heart is open, secure, and ready to receive lasting love.

Click here for the full show notes. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How subconscious fears of loss can quietly sabotage a secure and loving relationship—and what to do about it.
• Why past infidelity—even in a relationship that’s long over—can create mistrust and insecurity in your current partnership.
• How Core Transformation and the Self-Concept Model work together to dissolve old programming and create a new, empowered self-concept.
• What it really takes to bring your full self—calm, open, and confident—into love without the past running the show.

Client Stories You’ll Hear:

• A woman who carried an unconscious fear of losing her partner until we reprogrammed her mind to feel safe and secure.
• A client whose past experience with infidelity was clouding her ability to trust in her now-healthy relationship, and how she completely released that pain.

If you’ve ever wondered how to stop letting your past dictate your present—and finally feel the love you deserve—this episode will show you what’s possible.

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

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In this week’s episode, I break down what it really means to be emotionally available — not just in love, but in every area of life: career, wealth, health, and self-expression. If you’ve ever felt like you’re pressing the gas and the brake at the same time — desperately wanting something, yet somehow sabotaging it — this episode explains why.

I introduce the IDA Formula (I Am, I Can, I Deserve) as the three subconscious belief systems you must align to open yourself up to love, success, money, and joy. I share personal stories of living in survival mode, repeating painful cycles, and the breakthrough that came from working directly with my subconscious.

You’ll learn:

• Why conscious desire isn’t enough if your subconscious doesn’t feel safe.
• The role of identity, capability, and deservability in creating lasting results.
• How trauma, old programming, and past failures block you from receiving what’s meant for you.
• Practical ways to reprogram your subconscious so you can finally have and keep the results you want.

Whether you want a thriving relationship, financial growth, or confidence in your body, this conversation will show you how to remove the invisible blocks and become fully emotionally available to the life you deserve.

Resources & Links

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• 📥 Download the free Subconscious Success Guide
  to explore modalities that rewire your subconscious for love, wealth, and confidence.
• 💻 Work with Anabell 1:1
  – book a PSYCH-K®️ session or package to reprogram limiting beliefs and unlock your next level.

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

CONNECT WITH ME:

Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE.

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Welcome to Part 2 of our Men Are Mirrors series! Last week, we explored the truth behind why men mirror you—and today, we’re taking it deeper.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why the subconscious is like a loyal assistant taking your thoughts as instructions.
✅ How behavior confirms belief (and creates a vicious loop that keeps you stuck).
✅ 4 real-life examples of how reflection shows up in dating and relationships.
✅ Why understanding this is the key to making love feel easy and natural.

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Click here to book a PSYCH-K®️ session with me.
Click here to get on the waitlist for PSYCH-K®️ 

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

CONNECT WITH ME:

Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE.

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He’s not withholding. He’s mirroring.⁣
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Your nervous system is speaking louder than your words ever could.⁣
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When you feel safe, loved, and trusting — he feels it too.⁣
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When you’re guarded, controlling, or waiting for proof — his energy mirrors that.⁣
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It’s not about chasing, convincing, or performing.⁣
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It’s about who you are being.⁣

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest secrets in dating and relationships: men are mirrors. They reflect back the energy, beliefs, and emotions you carry inside.

Here’s what we’ll dive into:

• Why men pull away when you focus on them instead of yourself
• The difference between the problem-oriented structure (fear) vs. the creation structure (love)
• How subconscious programming makes you act in ways that sabotage love
• The shift that makes men lean in, pursue, and want to be part of your world

If you’ve ever felt like dating is a frustrating cycle—calm around the men you don’t like, anxious around the ones you do—this episode will change everything.

✨ Listen now and discover how choosing yourself makes men choose you.

Click here for the full show notes. 

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

CONNECT WITH ME:

Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE.

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Click here to download the pdf mentioned in the episode

If you’ve ever felt like the harder you try with a man, the further he seems to pull away—you’re not imagining it. In this episode, I’m breaking down The Sabotage Loop: the unconscious pattern that keeps high-achieving women chasing men instead of choosing them.

You’ll hear why chasing creates distance, how it keeps you stuck in what I call Problem Structure, and the exact mindset shift to move into Creation Structure—where you become magnetic to emotionally available men who actually want to invest in you.

What You’ll Learn:

• The real reason chasing creates emotional distance (and it’s not about playing games).
• The hidden ways high-functioning women “chase” without realizing it.
• How Problem Structure keeps you looping in the same unsatisfying patterns.
• What Creation Structure is and why it’s the key to creating the relationship you truly want.
• The simple shift that stops the loop and puts you back in your power as the chooser.

What if men aren’t rejecting you — they’re reflecting you?
Learn how your self-perception quietly teaches men how to treat you with The Mirror Effect Guide. Learn how your inner energy creates love, support, and devotion from men. Download the free guide HERE.

Your self-image sets the limit on what you attract and create. And when you change the image within, everything reflects differently.

Download The Identity Reset and discover how your past experiences quietly built your identity and how to transform those patterns so love, success, and confidence become your automatic new normal. Download The Identity Guide for free.

Remove subconscious fears while you sleep and change your energy to become emotionally available? You need The Reprogram For Love audios. You'll change your old "type" and feel calm, confident and comfortable in your own skin with ANY MAN.

12 audio tracks to reprogram your subconscious while you sleep.

Because when your subconscious changes, your love life changes.

CONNECT WITH ME:

Subscribe to my Youtube channel HERE.

Connect with me on Instagram ...