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 Helping children discover a sense of purpose gives them direction, motivation, and a connection to something greater than themselves. It boosts mood, energy, and motivation, especially when they contribute meaningfully to their community. Purpose is built through realistic goals, service, and exploration—especially in supportive environments like faith communities. Even structured service can be transformative. Ultimately, giving a child a future is the best way to help them overcome their past. 

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This episode explores the concept of power in parent-child relationships and how understanding power dynamics can improve interactions with children, especially during crisis moments. We discuss why self-control is the greatest form of power and how sharing power appropriately with children helps them develop into successful adults.

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We explore achievement as the third component of our Model of Leadership and Service, discussing how to foster confidence, build competence, and set appropriate goals for children who may identify more with failure than success.

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We explore the vital concept of belonging in child development and how it interconnects with a sense of safety, confidence, and overall wellbeing. Our expert panel shares personal stories and professional insights about what true belonging means and why humans fundamentally need connection to thrive.

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Safety forms the foundation of child development, serving as the brain's primary focus before learning or growth can occur. 

• Your brain's number one job is to keep you safe, not to think or problem-solve
• Children's behaviors often express their feelings of safety or lack thereof

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Cal Farley's Staff Development team introduces their Model of Leadership and Service, a framework focusing on six universal needs that everyone requires: safety, belonging, achievement, power, purpose, and adventure.

• Six basic human needs form the foundation for Cal Farley's approach to helping troubled youth
• Unconditional and restorative relationships are key to meeting children's needs
• Being curious about what motivates behavior helps avoid taking actions personally
• Behavior is viewed as communication about unmet needs rather than problems to punish
• The model provides a guide for decision-making when working with children
• Parents must also ensure their own needs are met to effectively care for their children
• The approach works with adults as well as children in all types of relationships

We'd love to have you join us next week as we dive deep into safety, the foundational element of our model. Until then, remember you may have to loan out your frontal lobes today—just make sure to get them back!

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Disorganized attachment develops when children experience unpredictable caregiving, creating a template where they can't anticipate how adults will respond and must constantly adjust their behavior to stay safe.

• Disorganized attachment characterized by unpredictable caregiving—loving one day, absent the next, angry another
• Children develop hypervigilance, constantly assessing situations and people to determine safety
• The phrase "if it's hysterical, it's historical" helps understand disproportionate reactions
• Disorganized attachment affects only 2-5% of general population but 80% of at-risk populations
• Children may resist stability because predictability feels threatening and unfamiliar
• Progress requires patience, consistency and time—it's not linear and setbacks are normal
• Caregivers need strong support systems as this work is emotionally demanding
• Safe, predictable responses from caregivers gradually help children build new neural pathways

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We explore ambivalent attachment, where caregivers' anxiety and overprotection create uncertainty in children, preventing them from developing confidence and decision-making skills. This parenting approach, often seen in helicopter parenting, stems from good intentions but teaches children the world is unsafe.

• Ambivalent attachment develops when caregivers are anxious, overwhelmed or uncertain in their responses to children
• Children with this attachment style appear visibly anxious and often look to caregivers before making decisions
• These children develop internal beliefs that they are unsure, others are confusing, and the world is unsafe
• Helicopter parenting prevents children from experiencing necessary stressors that build resilience
• Children need "predictable, moderate, and controllable" stress to develop confidence
• Creating opportunities for safe failure helps children learn to navigate challenges independently
• Parents should focus on developing self-awareness about their own anxiety triggers
• Ambivalently attached children may be more vulnerable to peer pressure and substance abuse as adolescents
• Adults with ambivalent attachment often struggle with decision-making and may seek controlling relationships
• Healing involves consistent caregiving, creating opportunities for building confidence, and gradually increasing stress tolerance

Join us next week as we discuss disorganized attachment.

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Our ongoing exploration of attachment styles focuses on avoidant attachment, examining how it develops when caregivers consistently fail to respond to children's needs. We unpack why this attachment style, which often makes children appear self-sufficient and well-behaved, actually undermines their emotional development and capacity for meaningful relationships.

• Avoidant attachment develops when caregivers are consistently unavailable or unresponsive to a child's needs
• The first three years of life are critical for attachment formation, with early experiences setting patterns for future relationships
• Children with avoidant attachment often appear independent and "easy" on the surface, making this attachment style easy to miss
• Even though these children don't outwardly show distress, their bodies experience the same stress response as children who openly express needs
• Technology may exacerbate avoidant attachment patterns by providing false substitutes for genuine connection
• Healing approaches include consistent, responsive caregiving, intentional time together, and recognizing that overwhelming a child with affection may backfire
• Simple strategies like scheduled meals together, protected playtime, and modeling healthy boundaries with technology can help children develop more secure attachment

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Secure attachment forms the foundation for a child's healthy development and shapes how they view themselves, others, and the world. We explore the four key attributes caregivers need to foster secure attachment: being present, attentive, attuned, and responsive.

• A secure attachment relationship is defined as one that's "free from danger or risk," creating a healthy and safe space for children
• Secure attachment forms when caregivers consistently respond to a child's needs, showing them they are important and valued
• Children with secure attachment develop a "secure base" that allows them to explore the world confidently, knowing they have a safe place to return to
• Crying at daycare drop-offs can actually indicate healthy attachment – the child wants to be with you and knows you'll return
• Being physically and emotionally present is the foundation for all other aspects of secure caregiving
• Attentiveness means paying close attention to what your child is doing and learning from their behaviors
• Attunement is the ability to accurately read and interpret your child's signals beyond surface behaviors
• Responsive caregiving teaches children that they matter and that seeking help is valuable
• Play accelerates attachment building – according to Dr. Karyn Purvis, it can cut healing time in half for children from difficult backgrounds
• Securely attached children develop powerful internal messages: "I am important," "Others are helpful," and "The world is safe"

Join us next week as we discuss avoidant attachment and continue our exploration of attachment styles.

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