Breakups and Breakthroughs

00:00 Intro 01:15 There's a lot going on in the world right now… 05:30 How my coaching tools help me navigate our current world 07:15 Control the controllables 09:45 It's hard to make any changes when you feel overwhelmed and stuck 10:15 Boundaries 12:55 Emotional regulation 15:35 Choosing to seek joy 18:15 Humans are resilient and resourceful 19:17 Let me know — what are you taking from this podcast & will apply to your life? 19:35 What is something you do when the world is a lot?

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Timestamps:

00:25 Intro

02:10 How you engage in social media will either help you heal or hold you back

02:43 Why it's important to have boundaries around social media

06:25 The algorithm can push your ex's posts to the top of your feed

07:15 People can screenshot your posts

08:25 Get curious of your own motives

09:25 Assume the person you don't want to see it will see it

10:25 Control the controllable

11:58 What is the best thing for you?

14:05 Unfollow & leave groups of people who don't uplift you and help you heal

15:37 The temptation to stalk your ex

17:25 You don't know what is going on in your ex's life

19:40 Make it harder for yourself to have access to your ex's life

21:45 Do something today to set yourself up for success on social media

23:35 Outro

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00:25 Intro

01:40 Practical steps you can take to rebuild your friendships after a breakup

02:25 Why it's easier to make friends as a kid

04:35 Lesson 1: Make friends outside of your partners

06:25 Lesson 2: When people show you who they are, listen

09:17 Lean into friendships you already have

12:30 Evaluate your availability, values, and interests

14:17 Find something consistent that gets you around other people with similar interests or values

17:19 Remember things about the people you meet

19:39 Get their contact info

20:38 Low bids for connection

22:33 Invite them to things

25:25 You have to commit to the process and stay consistent

26:51 People will reciprocate

28:32 Outro

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Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:03 5 steps you can take to deal with rejection 01:25 How rejection impacted me 04:05 Could you be rejecting yourself right now? 05:22 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent 07:29 Look at the facts, not the feelings 10:10 Place yourself in the other person's perspective 13:12 Where is this rejection a redirection? 15:55 Give yourself credit 18:25 Outro

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Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 04:15 Get curious about what you've normalized and where things could be a different way 06:21 Your brain is trying to protect you by keeping you in situations you know 08:40 Confirmation bias 09:10 We all have an algorithm 11:10 You have to consciously challenge your thoughts and beliefs 13:15 Scan for evidence that things can be different 14:23 Gather data on where things could be different 15:35 Don't get too caught up in the details 16:43 Visualization 19:25 Remove I don't know from your vocabulary 22:52 Practice thinking new thoughts and taking new actions 23:15 Outro

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00:00 Intro 01:40 How anxiety affected me 05:00 My turning point 06:50 Why do we get anxious? 09:14 2 Main takeaways from why we get anxious 10:10 Your brain isn't trying to hurt you or make you feel bad 11:45 How our language shapes our anxiety 13:15 the emotional we describe something the more we feel its true 13:35 Label your emotions to start defusing them 15:15 Regulate your emotions 16:16 Challenging your thoughts 18:02 Changes that come from doing this 19:00 The changes this work made in my life 22:00 Opportunities to work together 22:14 Links in the show notes!

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:20 What is lying?

03:10 Lying by omission

05:30 But what about white lies?

07:40 Lying is a slippy slope

08:00 We are all capable of lying

11:00 How lying hurts us

12:27 Why we lie

19:03 Where do you draw the line in lying?

25:18 How to not get lied to

27:00 Emotional regulation technique

29:00 Working through conflict

30:26 How to bounce back from lying

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00:00 Intro 01:54 What to do when you feel like you're backsliding in your healing journey 03:12 Why healing isn't linear 06:16 Cyclical processing 09:09 Focus on growth and what you have achieved 10:36 Anchor into one or two practices 12:40 Final thoughts 16:00 Outro

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:24 Identity change is uncomfortable

02:24 What inspired this episode - My story

07:59 What beliefs do you hold around the identity shift

09:24 Challenge your beliefs with compassion

10:38 Find acceptance in it being uncomfortable

12:54 You contain multitudes

14:23 Practice your new identity

15:49 You have to break the habit of being yourself

19:39 Your identity is meant to evolve over time

20:38 Final thoughts

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Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro 03:37 #1 You feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells06:01 #2 You are having the same conflicts over and over09:17 #3 Not feeling like yourself anymore 14:24 #4 You try to avoid them 15:11 #5 More things you dislike about them than you like about them 16:15 #6 You want to, but you're avoiding it or looking for a good enough reason 20:50 #7 You don't have the same vision for the future 21:50 #8 You feel alone even when you're with them 22:24 Final thoughts

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Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Over It: Breakup Workshop

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