Can't Host: Gay, Bisexual, and Queer Men’s Sex and Relationships

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In this episode, queer astrologer Colin Bedell and I problematize outdated gay stereotypes, such as masc4masc and Grindr Tribes through a critical lens, tieing this to the subject of homonormativity. We talk about the origins of homonormativity in heterosexual patriarchal systems, how queer men can work towards dismantling patriarchy, and the importance of healing our relationships with straight men. We also discuss ways of overcoming judgment within the LGBTQIA+ community, whether Grindr tribes help or limit our sexual experiences, and Colin also shares astrological updates related to these topics.

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

About Colin

Colin Bedell is a queer Gemini Twin from Long Island, New York. He's a passionate student of secular personal-growth systems, and the universal spiritual themes explored in A Course in Miracles. Well & Good Magazine listed Colin as one of the most influential people in the wellness industry and as a 2020 Innovator. Complementing his work with QueerCosmos, Colin's the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com. He’s the #1 bestselling author of A Little Bit of Astrology, Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities & Relationships, and Gemini. Most recently, he was on 'Written in the Stars,' an astrology-based dating show premiering on Discovery Plus in November 2022.

Colin's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queercosmos/

Colin's website: https://www.queercosmos.com/

Queer Cosmos book: https://www.amazon.com/Queer-Cosmos-Astrology-Identities-Relationships/dp/1627782931/

A Little Bit of Astrology book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1454932236/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

Gemini book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1454938935/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i2 

Resources Mentioned

Homonormativity definition: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/01/homonormativity-101/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/

Website: https://georgelizos.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

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How can we have more fulfilling and intimate sex? In this chat with gay sex tantra coach Finn Deerhart, we talk about the ins and outs of our sexual lives and the journey we can take to have more fulfilling sexual experiences. Specifically, we discuss how shame affects our sex lives, how to communicate our desires and preferences in sex, and how to use porn as a tool for self-inquiry and personal growth. Finn also shares practical exercises we can use to deepen our connection to our bodies and partners during sex. 

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

About Finn

Finn Deerhart is a sex and intimacy coach, helping gay and queer men ignite their eroticism and step into their emergent selves. Through my courses, workshops, retreats, and private sessions, men learn tools to confront their limitations, unravel internal narratives of shame, and spark deeper human connections—grounding themselves into a deeper experience of life. He also creates educational erotic content and provides on-site erotic coaching for various organizations, including Himeros TV, an online service that provides explicit educational content for queer men.

Finn’s Instagram: https://instagram.com/finndeerhart 

Finn’s website: https://www.finndeerhart.com 

Resources Mentioned

Polysecure, by Jessica Fern: https://www.amazon.com/Polysecure-Attachment-Trauma-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987/

Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs: https://www.amazon.com/Velvet-Rage-Overcoming-Growing-Straight/dp/0738215678/

The Craft of Family Therapy, by Salvador Minuchin: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0415708125/

The Art of Receiving and Giving, by Betty Martin: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Receiving-Giving-Wheel-Consent/dp/1643883089/

Jason Tantra: https://www.tantra4gaymen.co.uk/facilitators-jason/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/ 

Website: https://georgelizos.com/ 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos 

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj 

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf 

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd 

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Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠

Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/

Is it possible to have great, fulfilling sex without using Grindr or other gay hook-up apps? In this episode, Australian bestselling author of ‘Three Minutes With Spirit’ and psychic medium Cael O’Donnell and I, share creative ways of attracting sex without being on the apps. Listen to the episode to learn an energetic process of becoming a “sex magnet” and using the Law of Attraction to draw in partners, the reasons why off-Grindr sex is usually more fun, and how to use energy protection practices to protect your energy before, during, and after having casual sex.

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

About Cael

Cael O’Donnell is one of Australia’s most highly sought-after psychic mediums. His childhood in country Victoria was full of challenges and inspired his professional career as a mental health therapist, helping people at their lowest points find hope to live. When Cael began sharing messages of healing and connection on TikTok, it helped him rediscover his lifelong passion for spirituality and led him down a new path as a psychic medium.

Cael’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imcaelodonnell/

Cael’s website: https://www.caelodonnell.com/

Cael’s book Three Minutes With Spirit: https://www.amazon.com/Three-Minutes-Spirit-Australias-medium/dp/1761046683/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/

Website: https://georgelizos.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

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Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠

Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/

To what degree does dick size matter in gay sex? In my second conversation with Sergio Zapata, we bust myths about penis size and pleasure, talk about comparison, dick shaming, and how to fully accept ourselves, and take deep dive into the psychology and spirituality behind our collective obsession with size. 

You can read more about the research mentioned in the episode at https://gaymalejournal.org/ 

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

About Sergio

Sergio Zapata, label-less, but if there was a description of him it would be an alchemist, a person who transforms or creates something through a seemingly magical process. Growing up in an evangelical Christian household, bound to scriptures and dogmas of a strict patriarchy he broke through it all to create a life of his own where he could deconstruct his faith and develop self acceptance not just as a gay man, but a human.

In search of truth and clarity he continued his education in the field of architecture in NYC where he found a home and a way of life for him to thrive and develop a sense of self. Now an architect transforming living spaces as his formal career, he also dedicates his time in the study of mysticism, religion, shamanism, self development and wisdom seeking. Living in a world so concrete and earthly as architecture, but also dwelling in esoteric practices as spirituality he finds the duality of both worlds to balance and compliment each other, creating a harmonious life.

He is an alchemist continuing to transform his own life through a seemingly magical process, and helping others to find that magic of their own by shining his own light unapologetically.

Connect with Sergio at https://www.instagram.com/sergio0zapata/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/

Website: https://georgelizos.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

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Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠

Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/

Are you a top, bottom, vers, vers bottom, vers top, power bottom, dom top...? The list goes on! In this episode, I'm joined by Sergio Zapata in a conversation about how these gay sexual position preferences are empowering or limiting our sex life. Kicking the episode off with a candid sex story of how I negotiated these labels within me, we chat about whether being a top or bottom is something we're born with or not, we explore the interplay between these positions and masculine/feminine energies and share ways of exploring our sexuality beyond these labels.

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

About Sergio

Sergio Zapata, label-less, but if there was a description of him it would be an alchemist, a person who transforms or creates something through a seemingly magical process. Growing up in an evangelical Christian household, bound to scriptures and dogmas of a strict patriarchy he broke through it all to create a life of his own where he could deconstruct his faith and develop self acceptance not just as a gay man, but a human.

In search of truth and clarity he continued his education in the field of architecture in NYC where he found a home and a way of life for him to thrive and develop a sense of self. Now an architect transforming living spaces as his formal career, he also dedicates his time in the study of mysticism, religion, shamanism, self development and wisdom seeking. Living in a world so concrete and earthly as architecture, but also dwelling in esoteric practices as spirituality he finds the duality of both worlds to balance and compliment each other, creating a harmonious life.

He is an alchemist continuing to transform his own life through a seemingly magical process, and helping others to find that magic of their own by shining his own light unapologetically. 

Connect with Sergio at https://www.instagram.com/sergio0zapata/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/

Website: https://georgelizos.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

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Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠

Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/

In this episode, I share my journey of coming out of the closet. Growing up in a small, homophobic, and Christian community, my childhood was marked by bullying, judgement, and self-loathing. Conditioned to pleople-please and change for others' love and acceptance, I couldn't accept my gayness. Instead, I was led down a traumatic path of rejecting and trying to "cure" my gayness, which almost cost me my life. 

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more.

If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Me

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/

Connect With Me

Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/

Website: https://georgelizos.com/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

My Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Download my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at ⁠https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnet⁠

Can't Host Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/store/canthost/

Can't Host is a gay men’s sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. 

We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. 

If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!

About Your Host

I’m George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening.

Yet, my gay dating life since hasn’t always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can’t Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth.

Reach Out

George's Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/ 

Can't Host Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canthostpodcast/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos

Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/

George's Books

Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj

Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf

Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

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