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Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy


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Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.

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In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…

  • Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity
  • That being single is not terrible!
  • How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”
  • That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see it
  • Enjoying where you are at the time
  • That there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being single
  • The “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving target
  • How you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thing
  • Choosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudes
  • That being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationship
  • How people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone
  • What being a “love addict” means
  • How you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happy
  • How essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationship
  • The three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attached
  • How feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single now
  • A thought doesn’t have to lead to an action
  • Don’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)
  • Catherine Gray Links

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    Twitter

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