Change of Air

This past year - what I’m calling my Year of Noticing - has allowed me to slow down in my daily life just enough that I have been able to notice all the really wonderful things around me and also the not wonderful things around me in a way that gives me more time to process all of it. To really integrate the beautiful things, and to really understand the not great things.

I’ve also been able to notice my own patterns and get quite comfortable with them. And when you notice patterns in yourself over weeks and months, you can start to make decisions about what patterns you very much want to change.

What we notice, we can transform.

I am so excited to share with you that we are going to do this together in the new year starting on Wednesday January 10th at 5pm PST / 8pm EST, you can join me and each other in community to simply share what you are noticing.

No cost, no pressure, no requirements other than showing up and sharing — if you wish — what you’ve noticed that week. The magic and the mundane. The truly beautiful and the truly triggering. Know that you’ll have a safe space to share it all or listen to others - or me! - share.

This will be our space to know that no matter what we notice next year, we’ll have a place to share it. Every week. So you get in the habit, the regular daily practice of simply: noticing.

Here's the link to join us every Wednesday at 5pm PST / 8pm EST, starting January 10th:

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https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87059207129?pwd=QlJweGZPay9BTE9xeFZ1eDZqNW93UT09

Meeting ID: 870 5920 7129

Passcode: 352852

Cannot wait to see you there!

Hi. It's been a minute. I'm glad you're still here.

So much has happened to me since our last episode -- from a health scare to the loss of a dear friend. I had to pause and really take stock of how I was living -- always in a state of "needing to heal" and never fully allowing myself to simply live, as my healed self.

It's easy to make "I still need to heal" a story we get stuck in. A loop we can't climb our way out of...to the point that trauma and healing become our identities. And we begin to identify as our trauma first and ourselves second. Or we lose ourselves completely and our personality becomes "healing."

There is a way through it, a way out of the story, a jump out of the loop and it's so simple I missed it for most of my healing journey: it's joy.

I don't want you to miss out on another second of the joy that is available to you at all moments - even as you heal. So! We're going to start cultivating it together. One episode at a time. Join me!

A head-start on this episode and joy:

http://changeofair.com/blog/livethebenefitsofhealing

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When was the first time you realized you don't know basic life things that other people seem to know? Basic life things like bills and taxes and doctor appointments and basic hygiene things like brushing your teeth? I have realized this many times over the last several years of healing. I even have an app on my phone that reminds me to do these things. Really!

This week, I talk about what we didn't learn growing up in disordered homes, why it's okay, and why it's so important to be ever so kind to ourselves as we learn to make them habits we remember as adults. Our parents weren't focused on teaching us those things when we were younger, but that doesn't mean we can't take very good care of ourselves now.

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Workaholism is the perfect construct for adult children of alcoholics. We use our job and career as a crutch to get value externally from the world. So much of the patterns we experience when we were younger can manifest themselves in our work environment, when we don't even realize it.

This week, I take a look at how we become workaholics in toxic workplaces.

For more resources to help, visit https://www.changeofair.com/blog/acoas-at-work-why-acoas-become-workaholics

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If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I get out and hike in nature nearly every single day. As I've gone through my ACoA journey, being in nature has been one of the greatest tools to help me to get quiet, hear my own thoughts, and process how I'm feeling.

There's actually scientific data that backs up the power of being in nature for humans!

This week, join me by the river in Yosemite as I share why being out in nature can be a huge help. Make sure to wear earbuds when listening so you can really enjoy the river ambience with me.

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Yesterday, I did a thing. That thing? Nothing. I did absolutely nothing.

Often we feel pressure to always be healing. But the entire reason we want to heal is so we can live in our lives as more healed versions of ourselves. In order to live in our actual lives, we need to have days where nothing much happens so we can integrate what HAS happened. That allows us to enjoy the lives we've healed to live. 

We grew up in homes where our needs were not met. Where even expressing our needs might get us into trouble or create tension. It's not a surprise that many of us end up living lives where we are never actively choosing us. Never choosing, on purpose, what we want our lives to look and feel like.

Getting quiet enough to listen to our own needs and starting to give ourselves what we need is life-changing stuff. It's how we begin to be in charge of our lives instead of always putting others first.

It can also be scary and uncomfortable. Saying yes to you after many years of saying no brings up a lot of ish.

So how do we begin to choose ourselves? In this episode, we talk about starting really (really, really) small and building from there.

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As many of you have noticed, I took a bit of a break.

After getting vaccinated, something shifted in me. After 15 months of stress, uncertainty and the kind of hypervigilance only an ACoA can muster, the idea that I might finally be able to relax showed me just how much I had not relaxed at all. It showed me just how much I had been silently carrying and I could see it was too much.

I needed to take a step back. I needed to just be in my life without also trying to survive it. I needed to pause.

In this hike along with me episode, I share with you what I had to work through to come back and I share my most powerful takeaway: it's okay to give yourself what you need. This is your permission slip to pause as needed -- in any area of your life -- and come back when you're ready.

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Change equals loss. Even when change is good for us. Even when it's taken years to make it happen.

So often after we make a major change in our life, we can feel very different than we expected to feel after making long-desired changes. We feel funky. We get sad. We might have a hard time getting anything done. Sometimes, we yearn for the past, even though we worked hard and are happy to be away from it.

Why is that?

I've noticed myself really feeling this way over the last few weeks after I've made some major changes. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy and proud of the work I've done. But yet it doesn't feel like that and I couldn't figure out why.

My therapist has shared some great insight with me and I want to share it with you as well so you can use these tools as you are making big, healthy, long-dreamed-of changes in your own life.

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Have you ever had a moment where something that shouldn't be a big deal triggers you into something deeper? Into overreacting about a situation? Into thoughts and feelings from the past?

Sometimes those triggers can affect the rest of your day. Most of the time, we don't even understand where they're coming from and why we're reacting so strongly.

This week, I'm talking about these moments. And what we can do in these moments to stay present, stay calm and react appropriate to the situation at hand.

I share one of the most powerful tools in my healing toolkit: The Resilient Zone. I share the specific techniques you can use to process your sensations and feelings real-time so you can honor yourself, understand what is happening, and move on with your day in a safe and healthy way.

For some more insight and resources into today's episode, visit the blog post at https://www.changeofair.com/blog/the-resilient-zone

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