Life brings to all of us long periods where we feel lost or confused. We don't know how to get what we want, or even what it is that we want. 

The struggle to articulate the thing that might really make us “come alive” can be profound, even if we enter therapy.

Charlotte Fox Weber is the author of Tell Me What You Want, a new book that explores how to identify and navigate our deepest longings. 

Andrew and Charlotte discuss the idea that we have 12 fundamental desires: to love and be loved; understanding, power, attention, freedom; to create, to belong, to win, to connect, to control; and to want what we shouldn't. 

Identifying how these desires play out in your life can be liberating and beautiful, even if you also realise that acting on them is impossible. 

Charlotte Fox Weber is a psychotherapist, author and the founding head of The School of Life Psychotherapy.

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⭐️ The troublemaking twins: pride and shame.

⭐️Three things Charlotte Fox Weber knows to be true.

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