How aware are you of the silent signals you bring into your coaching conversations?

In this episode, we explore the subtle yet transformational role that co-regulation plays in coaching.

Reflecting on our own experiences as coaches, we discuss how this often-overlooked aspect of human connection helps to create a foundation of psychological and emotional safety within the coaching relationship.

Through this conversation, we reflect on how co-regulation is less about the words we say and more about the energy we bring into the space. It's about how we use our body language, breathing, and tone of voice to invite our clients into a settled, grounded state. It is about offering a felt sense of safety, presence, and acceptance, where a client can relax into being themselves without performance or pretence.

We delve into the ways we can notice our own state as coaches, how regulated or dysregulated we are as we show up for our clients. It's not about striving for perfection but about understanding that our nervous systems communicate silently and that presence matters. We reflect on how crucial it is to meet clients where they are and to use our own energy consciously. Whether through slowing down our breathing, adjusting our tone, or holding silence, these are invitations for the client to settle too.

The conversation touches on the polyvagal theory and how the nervous system craves connection. We speak about the science and humanity behind why co-regulation creates deeper, more transformative coaching conversations. It's not just about the questions we ask but about the energy we hold. Coaching becomes an oasis, a rare place where clients can breathe and simply be.

We share practical ways to cultivate this co-regulation through grounding exercises, breathwork, reflective questions, and conscious awareness of our voice and body language. These seemingly small actions have the power to radically change the quality of connection and depth in coaching.

If you have ever wondered why your clients say, "I feel so calm after talking to you," this episode offers insight into why that happens and how you can deepen this skill intentionally.

 

Timestamps:

00:00 – What is co-regulation? 01:00 – The importance of nervous system awareness in coaching 03:30 – Psychological safety as a felt experience 05:15 – Meeting clients where they are energetically 07:40 – How coaches can anchor the coaching space 10:50 – Clean energy versus calm energy 14:40 – Tools for co-regulation: voice, breathing, body awareness 16:30 – Reflective practice and knowing your own regulation 18:00 – The impact of body language and silence 22:00 – Simple practices to support co-regulation in sessions 24:30 – Being trauma-informed in coaching conversations

 

Key Lessons Learned:

• Co-regulation is about being present with another’s energy, not fixing it
• Psychological safety is created through how we hold space, not only through words
• Breath, tone of voice, and body language are tools for inviting calm connection
• Our own regulation as coaches directly influences the client’s experience
• Silence and stillness are powerful in inviting a client into a reflective space

 

Keywords:

Co-regulation in coaching, Psychological safety in coaching, Nervous system awareness, Coaching presence, Breathwork in coaching, Trauma-informed coaching, Energy in coaching conversations, Polyvagal theory coaching, Building rapport in coaching, Reflective coaching practice

 

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