Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

It’s easy to see your partner as the problem when things feel unfair—but often, the patterns we feel stuck in are ones we’ve unwittingly helped create.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast to talk about what it means to be a thoughtful changemaker in your relationship. They explore how to recognize when you’ve been over-accommodating—and how avoiding conflict or ignoring your own desires can quietly erode both your well-being and the strength of the partnership.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches that change begins by owning your role in the current dynamic—and using that clarity to engage in honest, collaborative conversations with your partner.  

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Neurodiversity brings a unique set of strengths—and challenges—to intimate relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife responds to listener questions about how traits associated with autism and ADHD shape the dynamics of marriage. Drawing from her own life and work, she explores what it means to love someone whose brain works differently than yours—and how couples can create more peace, closeness, and partnership across those differences.

Many men carry inherited messages about masculinity and sexuality that quietly undermine their peace with themselves—and interfere with their ability to show up with strength and clarity in their marriages.

In this powerful conversation with Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife challenges those inherited ideas and reframes strength—not as certainty or control—but as the courage to look honestly at yourself. The courage to tolerate feedback, consider your impact, and use discomfort as a catalyst for growth.

This episode also explores how men can navigate vulnerable conversations with greater maturity—especially around painful dynamics like feeling undesired or unchosen in marriage.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

The difference between immature and mature masculinity

Why so many men feel unchosen—and what they can do about it

How the need to be seen as good can keep us from actually being good

The essential role of discomfort in love, leadership, and growth

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What do you do when you’ve faced yourself, stepped into clarity, and still… your spouse won’t (or can’t) lean into the relationship?

In this Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Greg and Amy Langford of the Undressing Intimacy podcast to talk about the painful reality many couples face: when you want more honesty, connection, and intimacy—and your partner doesn't seem to want the same. 

This episode dives into the difficult soul work of learning to tolerate what we can’t control, teases out the difference between patience and clinging to false hope, and offers guidance on how we can handle disappointment in our relationship with maturity. 

Sexuality is an important part of our spiritual and relational lives—but for many Latter-day Saints, it’s also a source of confusion and anxiety. 

In this new episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kurt Francom of the Leading Saints podcast to talk about how church leaders can best support their congregation in matters of sexuality—not by avoiding the topic or using fear-based messaging, but by offering a more hopeful, honest, and empowering vision of how our God-given sexuality can bless and enrich our lives. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

What healthy leadership around sexuality can look like

Why fear and shame don’t help people make better choices

How to talk with youth in ways that build confidence and self-respect

How healthy sexuality strengthens faith, integrity, and intimacy

Our sexual thoughts can be unruly and strange—but sharing these unique parts of ourselves with a spouse can be a powerful way to build intimacy and connection.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer answers questions from our Facebook Group about the role of fantasy in long-term relationships. She explores why fantasy often feels taboo, and how—when grounded in morality and friendship—it can become a meaningful tool for strengthening intimacy and deepening connection.

The lack of discussion about the Divine Feminine has negatively shaped our culture and limited our understanding of what it means to be female. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife breaks down the cultural misconception that femininity is equivalent to weakness and offers a beautiful perspective on the strength of feminine intelligence and the powerful role that strong femininity plays in healthy relationships, communities, and societies.

David has been battling a pornography compulsion for much of his life. He’s read the books, listened to the podcasts, joined the groups, and tried every program he could find. But despite his best efforts, his behavior continues.

The repeated use—and the cycle of disclosure that follows—has taken a toll on their marriage.  David is upfront when he slips—but this is in the form of turning to Alexa for forgiveness and reassurance. When Alexa distances following his disclosure, he often grows impatient.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with David and Alexa to better understand what’s keeping them stuck. She offers David a new perspective—that he would benefit from acknowledging the part of him that wants the escape of pornography, and that until he confronts that reality, genuine change will remain out of reach.

Many people long for more ease and passion in their sexual relationship—but unknowingly bring meanings to sex that interfere with both.

When sex becomes a duty to fulfill, a performance to manage, or a tool to reassure a partner, it loses the very energy that makes it feel alive. The pressure to produce intimacy, validation, or an orgasm can quietly unravel the conditions that desire needs in order to thrive.