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Question: We are planning to adopt our third child. We have reason to believe that my husband’s parents will oppose this idea. Do you have any advice on how to approach them?

Resources:

• Transitioning Your Child to Your Home
• Winning Over Reluctant Extended Family to Your Adoption Plans
• Sibling Relations (Combing Children by Birth & Adoption)

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Join us for this discussion with Dr. Gretchen Sisson, the author of Relinquished, the Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood.

In this episode, we cover:

• Book focuses on private adoptions between 2000-2020. Not on parents where parental rights were terminated by the state and not on international adoptions.
• Full of first-person stories from birth moms. 
• How many women are currently placing a child for adoption compared to the number of births? 
• How does this compare to the number of women who decide on abortion? Only 25 % considered adoption, and only 9% relinquished. Turnaway Study
• 90% of relinquishing moms considered parenting, but only 40% considered abortion.
• What is the demographic of the mom who relinquishes her child for adoption between 2000-2020?  
• Why do women relinquish or choose adoption? 
• What does the research show on how many women who decide against abortion or can’t have an abortion because their pregnancy is too advanced opt for adoption?
• Why do so few women who are considering an abortion not consider adoption?
• Very often, the moms in your book and in your research describe adoption as their only option. Why were the other options not seen as viable? “When women have more options available to them, they are less likely to relinquish.”
• Options counseling.
• How has openness in adoption changed things?
• Some research shows birth moms are mostly happy with their decision to place a child for adoption. NCFA Adoption Profile: Birth Parents Experience (1400 birth parents)
• The issues of substance abuse disorder, acute mental illness, or extreme poverty are real. Why is it not in the child’s best interest for the mom to choose adoption?
• Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997- “fast-tracked termination of parental rights”—failed to talk about the reality of kids growing up in foster care. 

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Prior to Russia invading Ukraine, it was possible to adopt from Ukraine. In fact, depending on the year, it was one of the top 10 placing countries to the US. However, the government of Ukraine has said that intercountry adoption will not fully resume while martial law is in place. However, the government of Ukraine confirmed they will process intercountry adoptions in limited circumstances.

Resources:

• Top Ten Placing Countries to the US
• Factors to Consider When Adopting from Ukraine
• International Adoption (Resource page)

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Join this interview with Dr. JaeRan Kim, an adoption researcher who also blogs at Harlow's Monkey.

In this episode, we cover:

• Research:
  • Intercountry adoptees with adoption disruption and displacement histories – Adoptee perspectives
  • Korean adoptees as parents
  • Adoptees who adopt
  • Transracially adopted Korean American adults raising multiracial children
  • Adoptive parents of children with disabilities

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Summer break is just around the corner for families of school-aged children – whether you are ready or not. You may already be planning your annual vacation, buying pool passes, and buying tickets online for local venues to enjoy together as a family. However, you may also dread your child’s hours of unscheduled time. It’s understandable – transitioning from your predictable, regimented school-year routine to a less structured summer routine can shock your kids’ systems. How do you plan to survive the summer with your kids impacted by trauma?

Resources:

• Surviving Summer with Kids Impacted by Trauma (Article)
• Helping a Child Heal from Trauma (Resource page)
• Raising Foster Children (Resource page)

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Join this inspiring discussion with two former foster youths who talk about their time in foster care and how that experience shaped them. Lanitta was a pregnant and parenting teen growing up in the North Carolina foster care system. In May of 2022, she joined the 2% population of former foster youth that graduate from post-secondary education with a bachelor’s degree in business administration and finance. Mayia Warren was in foster care and later adopted by her grandmother. She has multiple invisible disabilities, albinism, and is visually impaired. In the spring of 2021, Mayia graduated with a bachelor's degree in Kinesiology. She is an advocate in multiple fields such as: disability, foster care, children and families, and wellness. She is also an independent recording artist, poet, author and philanthropist.

In this episode, we cover:

• Synopsis of your life story.
• What were the hardest parts of being in foster care?
• What were the better parts, if there were any?
• What would you want foster, adoptive, and kinship parents to know about how it feels to be in foster care?
• What have been the long-term impacts of sexual abuse?
• What helped you heal from the sexual abuse if you consider yourself healed?
• What would you want foster, adoptive, and kinship parents to know about how to help a child or youth heal from sexual abuse? What can these safe adults do to help?
• You have both “succeeded” despite many obstacles. What do you contribute your success to?

Snippet of Mayia’s new album: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1t9j1coN76ZarHnTDkDClXYuPZm2ya-t3/view?usp=drivesdk 

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A Lifebook is the story of how your child came to be yours and the story of his life before he came to you. Adoption is only one aspect of your child, and at some point, his life merges into your life. However, he had a life before he came to your family, and his Lifebook tells this part of his story.

Resources

• Adoption Lifebooks (Suggested Books)
• Welcoming an Older Child to Your Home (Resource Page)
• Transitioning a Child to Your Home (Resource Page)

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Are you considering adopting internationally. If so, you really should listen to this interview with the great Dr. Dana Johnson, MD, PhD. He is a Professor of Pediatrics in the Division of Neonatology at the University of Minnesota Medical School. Dr. Johnson founded the International Adoption Clinic at the University of Minnesota.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Prenatal exposure to alcohol and drugs: How common in international adoption? How much and when in the pregnancy? What does the impact look like in an infant, preschooler, school-aged child, and older?
  • Alcohol
  • Opioids
  • Cocaine
  • Methamphetamine
  • Marijuana
  • Cigarettes
• Prenatal stress: Does maternal stress during pregnancy have a long-term impact on the child? Is this something that adoptive parents will know other than by assuming from reading the files?
• How heritable are mental illnesses?
  • Depression
  • Bi-polar
  • Schizophrenia
• How heritable are the following?
  • ADHD
  • Intelligence or academic success
• Attachment issues: How common with international adoption, and what are the recognizable symptoms of attachment struggles?
  • Disinhibited social engagement disorder. What is it, and how common?
  • How common is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)?
• Impacts of neglect: How common is neglect in international adoption?
• Impact of institutionalization in international adoption.
• Impacts of physical abuse: How common in international adoption? How often do referrals report physical abuse?
• Impact of sexual abuse: How common in international adoption? How often do referrals report sexual abuse?
• Impact of lack of prenatal care.
• How common are the following:
  • Hepatitis B: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • Hepatitis C: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • HIV: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • Congenital Syphilis: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • Prematurity: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • Low Birth Weight: What is the long-term prognosis of a child who was born with low birth weight?
  • Cleft lip/palate: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
  • Congenital heart issues
  • Missing limbs/digits-amniotic band syndrome
  • Albinism
  • Dwarfism
• Most common special needs you are seeing.
• What is the risk to the child if the birth mother has/had tuberculosis?
• Other risk factors to be aware of.
• Tips for evaluating risk factors in international adoption. 
• How to find a clinic that specializes in evaluating international adoption referrals?

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Question: We’re 5 years in trying to conceive and I’m TIRED. I have an opportunity to adopt an unborn baby girl. My question is, does it get any easier dealing with the infertility, the failure, the empty feeling? Does your heart stop breaking every month when you know you’re not pregnant? I’m so afraid that I’m gonna get this little baby but still need more…. hope I didn’t offend anyone!

Resources:

• Coming to Terms with Infertility Grief Before You Adopt (Suggested Books)
• Parenting After Infertility
• Breastfeeding the Adopted Child

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Join us to talk with Cam Lee Small about his new book, The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment.

In this episode, we talk about:

• You wrote this book for Christian adoptees. Why that specific audience?
• Adoptees have been objectified, scrutinized, and infantized. Can you give examples of where you see this?
• The narrative surrounding adoption, especially international adoption: you were saved, you are better off, God called us, etc.
• Loss and grief that is inherent in adoption. Ambiguous loss and disenfranchised grief.
• Is trauma a part of all adoptions?
• What are the stages of recovery from trauma and how can adoptive, foster, and kinship parents help with this recovery?
• “The cost of gratitude-driven silence is high.”
• I am adopting (kin) a two-year-old girl and planning to keep her basic birth story as part of open conversation. She has details in her story that may be difficult to hear and I would like to keep those from her until she is much much older. Do you agree or disagree with this idea and why? How old were you when you learned your full adoption story?
• Your parents gave you full access to your records, which you could look at with them or alone. Was this helpful, and do you recommend this approach?
• 3-5-7 model for preparing children for permanency
• The reunion experience. Dr. Susan Branco’s seven themes of emotions that participant report from their reunion experience. 

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