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"In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Carlos Alvarez Roque leads Danielle and Garrett on an adventure down memory lane where the details of their extraordinary life are revealed. We discover how they went from nine breakups during their dating years to ultimately becoming each other's ride or die, and how they created multi-million dollar empires that are impacting men, women, and families today and for generations to come."

QUOTES OF THE WEEK

"I was so intimidated because of how beautiful she was and felt so *not* worthy to be with her that I would find a way to be emotionally unstable and then break up with her." –Garrett J White

"Now that we have kids, I was thinking, why didn't we have sex all over the house all the time before we had them? We had so much freedom, but we didn't even know!" –Danielle K White

FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE

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THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE

This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business.

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FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES

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"Welcome to a blush-worthy, sizzling, and nugget-filled episode of the Date Your Wife podcast where nothing is off-limits, and the sexual tension is off the charts and at an all-time high between mega-producers and married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White."

QUOTES OF THE WEEK

"Who are you going to have to become to be able to pull this off where the things that you say you want are normal and natural?" –Garrett J White

"I was a cute eighteen-year-old. Everything on paper looked bad and said no, this guy is not for you!" –Danielle K White

NON-NEGOTIABLES

1. Get clear about what you want. 2. What are you wiling to sacrifice? 3. Inside of that sacrifice, who must you become to get what you want?

FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE

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THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE

This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business.

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FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES

Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

"Do you find yourself judging others about their workout routine, all the while downing gallons of diet coke? What about the picture-perfect couple who, in public, seem to have it all...yet behind the scenes are filing for divorce? This week's episode has some plain talk about health in our bodies and in our marriages, becoming better versions of ourselves, and a conversation about how aligning their lives with God has shifted the Whites' life in the past few months. Welcome to another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White."

"Even as hot and on fire as we are right now as individuals and as a couple, the version of us ten years from now will look at us right now and say, 'You have no idea…'" —Garrett J White

"Growing is not just about you. Yes, it's so very fulfilling and rewarding for you; however, you impact and are an example to so many other people by becoming a better version of you." —Danielle K White

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"In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle share how a recent discovery of a tangled web of lies woven by their teenage daughter exposes them as parents. Their conversation leads to possible causes and solutions, as well as realizations about their parenting strategy or lack thereof. The reality is, your kids are always hiding something from you, and it's your job to find out what it is."

QUOTES OF THE WEEK

"I'm finding out I may be like the good cop, meaning the silent, stoic guy who doesn't yell; he just states the facts and convicts people." –Garrett J White

"I realize I gave her too much freedom. That's my fault. And now I'm trying to course-correct to get back on track." —Danielle K White

PARENTING CHALLENGE

What is your parenting strategy?

FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE

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THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE

This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business.

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FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES

Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

QUOTES OF THE WEEK

"I'm thinking we look like a badass Olympic surf team and the rest of the people are thinking, look at that cute gay couple going on their anniversary!" --Garrett J White

"If you have the power to stay consistent for a long period of time, you're going to have success." —Danielle K White

HIGHLIGHTS

1. How taking trips by yourself helps create your own persona outside of the relationship
2. Connect deeply with your spouse before one or the other leaves on trips or getaways.
3. It's the moments that keep your marriage together.
4. People want short-term instant gratification vs long-term investment. There is no short-term fix.
5. You don't understand the snowball effect of you playing small and settling.
6. Get clear about what vision you want as a couple. What would have to be true, and who would we have to become? What would have to be true about our life for the reality that we saw in the future to become possible?

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COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE

You take one step forward to being just a little less shitty as a partner by going on Date Night this week.

FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE

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THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE

This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business.

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"This week's episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast is about making financial decisions, particularly when it comes to the 'big' ones. This is typically a hot topic for most couples, and the Whites are no exception. Their back-and-forth duel ultimately comes down to learning how to submit to the other's insanity and accepting it as part of the equation."

QUOTE OF THE WEEK:

"Yes, we are fallible. Yes, we fuck a lot of things up. But the cool this is, we keep winning. Why? Because we keep submitting." --Garrett J White

"If I expect a man to show up as a man and be masculine, then I have to show up as a woman… and let him be the man." —Danielle K White

COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE:

Choose a topic and then ask yourself the question,

"How can I pre-frame this in a way that will allow for us to have a rational conversation?

THE 5 STAGES OF MARRIAGE:

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WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE:

This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business.

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Always entertaining and willing to go where most won't, Garrett and Danielle are keeping it real and raw in this week's spicy episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where they pull back the curtain on all things sex & relationships.

• What's the difference between sex and intimate sex?
• What is vaginal masturbation?
• How much power do women have with the sex card?
• How does the Stack fit into all of this?
• What about Danielle's fitness competition journey?
• How do you date your spouse?
• And...what was the last piece of the puzzle that ultimately set their marriage and sex life on fire?

Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast!

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DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE:

If you have something you want to do on Date Night, then schedule it.

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QUOTES OF THE WEEK

"You've become the sexual monster that I've wanted to be dominated by; the woman who tells me, 'I conquered you!"'—Garrett J White

"When you have sex without intimacy, I'm a personal vibrator."—Garrett J White

"If I'm not connecting with you, we'll have sex to have sex. But I hold my emotions and vulnerability, and I don't let myself even enjoy it or have fun."—Danielle K White

"I hated the idea of having somebody tell me, "You can spend money on this, but you can't spend money on that." I wanted to keep my independence."—Danielle K White

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"After a semi-brief hiatus, Garrett J & Danielle K White, dynamic, charismatic, entertaining, and powerful mega-producers, are back! In this highly-anticipated 'welcome back' episode, the couple brings us up to speed about their family life and businesses. They also touch on the five stages of divorce, and what ultimately re-ignited what is now their ride-or-die relationship. Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast."

Quote of the Week:

"You have to jump the gap, divorce the marriage as you know it as, divorce yourself as the way you see yourself, divorce the game in your family the way it's been…you have to let go. Divorce is mandatory."

—Garrett J White

"You have to look at what you want the end result to be and then you have to reverse engineer and figure out what those steps are in between to get you what you want."

—Danielle K White Click Here to watch this episode on YouTube.

*Repeat from February 2019.* "In today's episode, we learn about Danielle's epic dream that may or may not include Matthew McConaughey; we discover how men and women process guilt (and where that guilt stems from), and how the life-altering seasons of ultramarathon running and Kokoro training profoundly influenced and affected Garrett…and ultimately their marriage."

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy

• Danielle hates feeling guilty. "I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I'm feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?"
• Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she's making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, "I have self-control and self-discipline.

QUESTION

As a woman, how do you process guilt?

Point #2: Attack With the Stack

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• Guilt plagues guys in a massive way, and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they're away and DON'T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in.
• Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. "I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I'm able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories."

QUESTION

As a man, how do you process guilt?

Point #3: The Dream

• Danielle's recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, "You have dreams, and your dreams mean something."
• Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I've snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown.

QUESTION

Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages?

Point #4: Running From Life

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• During an especially difficult three year period for the White's, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life.
• Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It's almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting.

QUESTION

What do you do to run away from your problems?

Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path

• Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make.
• Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn't know if I was going to stay married. This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline.

QUESTION

How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point?

Communication Challenge:

Have a conversation about this phrase, "I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom." Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you?

Date Night Topic:

Who are your superheroes? Why?

Quote of the Week:

"I'll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I'll take a deep breath and say, 'There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is."

—Garrett J White

"I'm super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I'm in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better."

—Danielle K White

Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse AT LEAST once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week's episode, the White's share tips for what has worked for them, as well as what hasn't worked for them, in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. "Encore presentation from January 2019."

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency

• Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It's as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other.
• Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it's so easy to lose your momentum. It's in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it's the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing.

QUESTION

What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other?

Point #2: Baby Talk

• In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle's experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his "very aggressive sperm."
• Danielle's well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast.

QUESTION

Did your gender reveal turn out as planned?

Point #3: Family Affair?

• A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family members might actually be better for you and your kids.
• From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing.

QUESTION

What has been your experience with family members watching your children?

Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry

• Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter's schedule.
• Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they're there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it's a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don't know how to please you.

QUESTION

Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters?

Point #5: "Care.com: Your Shit is Legit"

• By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, "Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video."
• "You're investing in the guardianship of your children. If you're paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you're investing in your marriage. 1-What's your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?"

QUESTION

Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children?

Communication Challenge:

Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage.

Date Night Topic:

Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months.

Quote of the Week:

"If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you're going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you."

—Garrett J White

"Whether it's family or someone you pay, there are really no excuses when it comes to creating Date Night and space for yourselves as a couple. It becomes a matter of making it a priority."

—Danielle K White