Van Badham is an author, playwright, Guardian columnist, broadcaster and general all 'round ratbag. Van and I talk about how she'd given up on love and then fell in love at Trades Hall, across a crowded room at the age of 39. We take a brilliant listener call on what single life can look like in your 60s and get into Van's dating dealbreakers and "he's a ten but...". A wonderful episode with a wise and thoughtful woman determined to wait for the best (chuck out the rest).

• Van's new play "A Fool in Love" HERE
• Van on Facebook HERE
• Van in the Guardian HERE
• Van's Book HERE

Nelly xxx

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This week I am joined by my favourite Drag Queen Spankie Bloody Jackzon. Spankie is LTS (long-term-single) and not prepared to settle for less. We talk about Fairytales and how much of a barrier they are to real love, how Spankie was going for "the wrong type" of men and how BME (Big Mum Energy) can get in the way of connection. We take a great listener call on preparing kids to be good grown-ups (who are ready for dating) and another call on period sex - yes, I asked a cis, gay man about period sex. Spankie has learned that love is effort and that he wants to be the Little Spoon sometimes. A fabulous and funny episode with an icon in the Australasia performance scene.

Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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Today we talk to author Amanda Hampson. Amanda in now a 69 year old author, but was once a scared teen mum, kicked out of home and giving her child up for adoption. She's gone on to have more children and a couple of marriages but is avowedly - and happily - single. We talk all that stuff as well as why quitting is for winners, how petty divorce can get and we take a wonderful listener call about how we can see past relationships in a very different light once we heal. A fascinating episode that reminds us that the good old days were not that good.

Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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Bev shares her top celebration./event tips:

• refuse to take on perfection
• be naughty and nice
• enjoy your guilty pleasures
• take the pressure down
• presentation is key - not the amount of money spent
• go where the love is

Bev and I also take some wonderful listener calls on navigating a tricky Christmas with step-kids and dealing with other people's ex's at Chrissy. We also take great listener letters on navigating your first Christmas without your kids and, what to do over the holidays if you family has rejected you.

Bev's Cashew But Roast: HERE

Roast chook recipe: HERE

LOVE YAS,

Nelly xxx

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We are joined today by comedian Alice Fraser. Alice is beyond description - a wonderfully intelligent, thoughtful and insightful woman who is such a deep soul that I'm not sure I kept up! Alice and I talk about hacking the brain you have (and accepting it), how to embrace and handle conflict, about abuse and madness, Russian princesses, rejection and how chronic illness can affect relationships. We take a brilliant listener call on resentment about "weaponised incompetence". ALL THE THINGS! This is such a glorious episode - enjoy!

Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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This week we are joined by Renee Thompson - wedding celebrant, DJ, MC and massive horn-bag. Renee talks to us about being in a non-monogamous relationship and how to keep that rolling along in a healthy way. She talks kink and how it's connected to her conservative upbringing and, the "red and green" flags she sees as a wedding celebrant. We take an excellent listener call on a mid-life sexual awakening and all the usual stupid shit an ex has done and, Renee's dating dealbreakers. Celebrant by day and kinkster by night - a fascinating discussion with a bundle of pure joy!

Renee The Celebrant's website: www.reneethecelebrant.com.au

Tomboy Website: www.tomboyonline.net

RADAR relationship check in template: https://www.multiamory.com/radar

Nelly xxx

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Award winning author and journalist Kaz Cooke joins us to talk about being single after a series of duds in her younger years and coping with the end of a long-term relationship. We do a deep-dive into menopause and how it can affect sex, dating and relationships. We talk about developing a sense of worthiness as we age and how friends provide sustenance. We take a listener call on what it's like to have a facial difference and be in the dating pool and we get an update on the "travel with them stress-test"... Kaz and I have some thoughts.

A wonderful episode with a powerhouse of Australian publishing.

Kaz's Books and other info HERE

Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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We're joined today by children's entertainer Matt Kelly. Matt shares his late-start to dating, how he was love-sick and swept up in the feels and how eventually he found his lovely beau. We talk about hope, change and knowing when you're done. We take a very important call about protecting yourself financially when you start a new relationship and whether or not you need to be friends with an ex (hot tip: hurt, hate, heal first). We read a letter about social media etiquette and whether it means anything at all. A wonderful episode with a mind and thoughtful man.

WIRE (Women's Information Referral Exchange): https://www.wire.org.au/

Nelly x

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Comedian Chris Ryan joins us to talk long distance relationships, how to heal a broken heart, why rushing in a sign you need to love yourself more and why you should never be grateful for "just enough".

CHRIS RYAN'S WEBSITE HERE

HOW TO HEAL A BROKEN HEART TED TALK HERE

Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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OMG, we have hit the 40 episode mark. And to celebrate I am joined today by Producer Sammy! We talk his hopes for the future (he's a single, straight, cis man in the wild), confessions, controlling partners, holidays with dates and we rip into an absolute doosh who drops a woman for a surgery scar. Sammy talks about stupid shit an ex has done and his dating deal breakers...

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Love yas,

Nelly xxx

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