Dear Black Gay Men Podcast

Decoding “Daddy”: Beyond the Bedroom in Black Gay Culture


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Join JAI The Gentleman of the Dear Black Gay Men Podcast as he breaks down an exclusive, off-air conversation from the “Private Party” episode and dives into the ambiguity of this cultural term.

In this episode, we tackle the big questions:

* Does “daddy” have a meaning outside of sex in Black gay culture?

* Does the term lose its meaning when we use it too often?

* Is it simply a top with a big dick, or does it come with a level of real-life responsibility?

JAI even shares an exclusive update about his new dating entanglement with someone he calls Ryan, who considers JAI his “daddy”. This dynamic sparks a deeper discussion: Can a daddy be femme? Is the term about masculinity, or is it a service role—a protector and provider who shows love through acts of service?

Plus, we get into:

* The argument that straight culture is co-opting the term “daddy” from queer BDSM and leather culture.

* What 20 bottoms agree on about what a “daddy” is not.

* A heated moment on dating app etiquette: Why you need to get to the point, fill out your profile, and stop asking questions that are already answered!

Tune in for a powerful, unfiltered discussion on love, kink, gender roles, and the evolving language of Black gay intimacy.

Listen now to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast and join the conversation!

#BlackGayMen #DaddyCulture #QueerDating #ServiceTop #BlackQueer #DBGM



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