Delight Your Marriage

I used to be so weirded out by sex, because I was pursuing Jesus with everything.

How could my life be sold out for Christ and have to engage in such carnal behavior?

Then God opened my eyes to quite a lot. I hope you'll listen to today's podcast with an open heart and willingness to let Him reveal His true design and desire for you in your marriage.

Love & Blessings,

Belah

PS - if you need immediate help with your marriage/intimacy please set up a call with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help: delightyourmarriage.com/cc

Masculinity Reclaimed (the program these gents took to transform their lives, by God's grace) has opened enrollment and it all closes down this Monday, October 18, 2021 11:59pm EST delightyourmarriage.com/minvite

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How frequently have you heard of marriages "on the rocks" or getting divorced? And how frequently are you hearing of marriages transformed and healed and better than when they were dating! (In just 3 months!?!?!?!)

HERE!

God is doing it HERE!

I want your faith to be inspired and encouraged and for you to feel true HOPE that if it can happen for him and him and him and him and him and him and him...

It could happen for you!

(And these are ONLY the men from the program who are brave enough to have their face and voice out on the internet for all to hear/see!)

It's a movement and we have the largest turn out we've ever had in the free Men's Masterclass! And men are joining Masculinity Reclaimed left and right.

Now is your time -- you owe it to yourself to find out if this is where God would want you in this season.

Find out all the details: delightyourmarriage.com/minvite

(If you have a friend who needs hope, send them this podcast, you may be the only one who helps him see that things could really be different if he was just willing to step up. Thank you <3)

Love & Blessings,

Belah

PS - Masculinity Reclaimed enrollment closes down this Monday, October 18, 2021, 11:59pm EST delightyourmarriage.com/minvite

If you're looking for hope that your marriage or intimacy could change, you've found it.

These are rapid-fire stories of how these men's marriages literally transformed in simply 3 months.

Here are these guys saying in rapid-fire interviews:

"Now, it's better than when we were dating"

"She initiated 5x in a week" and she didn't know he was doing the program.

"Our emotional connection is so much better than it was...she's softening"

"Our intimacy is night and day different"

If it can happen for them, why not you? I bet you'll hear your own story in theirs.

The Masculinity Reclaimed program is what they did and now God has transformed intimacy for their marriages!

Listen in to hear hope and encouragement!

Join the Masculinity Reclaimed program before it all closes down 11:59pmEST on Monday Oct 18, 2021

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Blessings,

Belah

PS - Once you go through MR, I'd like to add your testimonial to the list---it's pretty long at this point, but I want yours too :)

Why not have the most amazing Christmas and New Year you've ever had! If you start now, that'll be a reality!

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If you join within the first day, you can get the fast-action bonus Team Strategy Session with Belah!

Hope to see you on the inside!

Belah

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Some gents have met together to go through the material carefully after each class (like a Bible Study!).

Some men have moved their vacation schedules!

Some men asked if they should take off work to make sure they can be a part.

Our team does an amazing job of making this a fantastic experience for the attendees -- very interactive with quizzes, points, prizes and most of all an opportunity to gain the perspective and tools that could change your marriage forever!

Join us, Oct 11, 12 & 13

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I think all the wives will want their husbands to listen to this one.

Because I have the good fortune of working with men every (work) day and hearing their unfiltered thoughts about intimacy...

I can help you understand why your wife often rejects you.

One of the major truths is that it's SCARY to initiate sex with your wife.

So, you probably do...

But in general, it's a half-invested way, in hopes that her rejection won't feel so painful. Because from experience it has been rejected, even your best attempts.

Fast forward to today.

Now, because a husband's attempt at enticing his wife to make love is so "inadequate" for fear of rejection.

(Jfyi "inadequate" was the thesaurus's replacement for "lame" :) )

For this reason, the wife naturally would reject it.

But what if we took the fear out of this exchange entirely?

And your enticing her towards intimacy was filling for her and could even be successful!?

AND you're not full of fear.

Is that even possible?

I think with these insights, you will be well on your way.

to invite a wife--who is never in the mood--

to be in the mood!

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Jfyi, I go a lot deeper in all of this in a systematized and even templated way in one of the bonus courses, "Romantic Initiating: Start the way she craves". It's part of the Masculinity Reclaimed program.

If you sign up for the men's masterclass you'll find out all of the details.

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We all have someone who needs help in their marriage, I would be honored and I encourage you to have the courage to send them this way! delightym.com

He does not know it will cost him his life.

Sounds like a horror movie -- where the killer is waiting in the woods without the person knowing.

But the person should never have come into the haunted house in the first place -- if only he knew it would cost him his life.

(Isn't that how those horror movies go? I don't actually know, I don't watch them.)

But, my hope is that this episode would grab you at your core.

I hope it does.

Our society says the absolute opposite of this about sexual sin.

It's so sad and so awful the way sex outside of marriage is touted in our society as "normal" and even "healthy".

Oh but it grieves God. And it destroys a man's soul.

"He does not know it will cost him his life". Prov 7:23

So I want to ring the bell. I want to yell in the streets -- you don't know the danger. You can't see the wreckage, but it is happening whether you see it or not.

So, much of Proverbs warns against the temptation of the wrong way of sex (and so many other places explicitly as well as embedded in stories of men who made these mistakes themselves).

It is a powerful warning.

I hope and pray this episode shakes you from your slumber.

And puts the fear of God in you so you no longer see yourself as a victim but as one who "does not even go near her corner".

Sexual sin should NOT be trifled with.

You know what sexual sin is for you (is it in reality or fantasy... all of that is the sin we are talking about.)

May you see the see evil and hide yourself, "But the naive proceed, and pay the penalty" Prv 22:3

That it might not cost you your life.

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Join the free Men's Masterclass: Passionize Your Marriage (even if you're the only one doing the work!) starting Oct 11

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Get inspired and encouraged by Nick's story. It's amazing! They were miserable.

He had plenty of ministry and church background. He certainly tried his best!

They had 5-kids, including a brand new baby.

But he and she had resigned themselves to misery.

He didn't even want his kids to get married because it was so painful for both of them.

But in 6 weeks it all turned around, by God's grace!

Why do I share this and other stories of God's transformation?

1 - Because you need faith that YOUR marriage can change.

2 - You can get specific insights that Nick changed and why his wife transformed.

3 - And to convince you that you need to take the free Masterclass coming up in October 11, 12 & 13.

delightym.com can get you straight to the Free Men's Masterclass sign up.

(It's easier to type than delightyourmarriage.com but both will get you to the registration page!)

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Love,

Belah

PS - Be sure to join us on the FREE Men's Masterclass - delightym.com Oct 11, 12 & 13

Our society today so often wants to ignore God's design and essentially forget the fear of the Lord.

But, he made men and women in His image and those uniquenesses are incredible!

Physiological, psychological, emotional, and sexual...UNIQUE.

Each of our uniquenesses is God's glory revealed.

It's our opportunity to search out His glory through each other.

And it makes sense that the enemy wants to undermine God's design in every way that he can.

One way is pretending that we're the same.

Why is this bad?

Well, husbands assume their wives are intentionally hurting them because she is "withholding" love (in the unique way he receives it), thus grounds for unfaithfulness/divorce/all manner of destruction.

And wives assume their husbands are intentionally hurting them because he is "withholding" love (in the unique way she receives it), thus grounds for unfaithfulness/divorce/all manner of destruction.

But if we start with the perspective:

My spouse, my "ezer kə·neḡ·dōw" (from Gen 2:18), is WILDLY different than me because God made him/her that way.

They desire, love, enjoy, crave completely different things than I do---let me discover what those things are!

In sum: assume you are completely different than your spouse and that you can learn how to love them the way they receive love.

"Making love" rather than having sex is a vital piece. Listen in to learn more.

I'm praying and rooting for you in this!

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Men: your free masterclass is right around the corner starting October 11 (don't miss it, add it to your calendar!) and sign up delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass

Pastor Nathan's wife had abuse/trauma growing up that severely inhibited her sexual desire and affection with him.

They were good people and she wanted to love him well, but couldn't because of her past.

And her libido was SO low.

Pastor Nathan went through the Masculinity Reclaimed program and his wife transformed before his eyes.

(She didn't do a program).

His favorite moment was when he said after a very passionate experience and he said "thank you"--she responded "well, it was because I wanted it so badly"!

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Pastor Todd & Donna had a great marriage. (Donna joined him for this interview!)

They come from a long line of pastors and are very busy doing a lot for others.

And it was really good -- but intimacy was physically painful for Donna and she also had low drive.

Pastor Todd joined the MR program (almost by accident) and he felt like he didn't belong there because everyone seemed to have it much worse.

And he felt that her physical pain wasn't because of him at all.

But, he took a step of faith and signed up. She didn't do a program.

BUT... through the program SHE started initiating way more than ever and she didn't even notice.

She started enjoying it more and their marriage has flourished!

He has a Masters in Family Life Ministry said in an email to me:

"My wife and I have been to and led MANY Christian marriage conferences and retreats and Bible studies and have watched many marriage videos and read many books and I have done pre-marriage counseling with couples in my role as a pastor and camp director, but I have never experienced anything as comprehensive and effective as Masculinity Reclaimed!"

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Excited for you to hear these two mens' stories, as professionals in the field God has used MR to help their own marriages and I am SO honored, humbled and grateful.

Blessings,

Belah

PS - If you want to see what MR is all about and get some fantastic free training, sign up for the Free Men's Masterclass coming up next month: October 11, 2021 ( delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass )