In this episode we talk about Dawn’s business, her employees, and the value of meditation. We talk about some techniques that she has implemented into her life to create balance, and the trauma’s still present for her, like sleeping patterns, and her way of naturally being post divorce. 

The gold in the episode is how she reveals the release of having the need to do everything. 

If you feel like you can’t stop doing everything, this episode is a must listen to. Dawn does a great job of relaying what she does, and did, to overcome that feeling of doing everything for everyone.  She also shares about how her relationship started with her ex, and how ugly it got, and still is.  This episode opens up a new way of listening to Dawn, she reveals how much of her story is in ours. She peels back the layers of her life for you to observe and learn from. It does not get any more vulnerable than this.

In this week's episode we share the mic with Michele Traina (Episode 22) to talk about how to manage the first week of a divorce. We get into what that was like for us. We talk about what happened, what we did, and what we suggest is a good idea to do if you are in that situation.  It was an absolute pleasure to have michele with us inside this conversation. It felt that this particular topic needed a female's perspective to really bring it home for all of us. I hope you enjoy listening to it, as much as we enjoyed creating it for you.

In this episode we learn about the beginning of a divorce and the effects of it. For Dawn, it was normal to share everywhere she was going, with everyone, all the time. Having the feeling that she needed permission to do things was the first thing that became apparent to her when the relationship was complete. She recalls how she had said to her kids that she was going somewhere, and that the kids were not interested in knowing. Not because they didn't care, but because they didn't need to know where she was at all times, like she thought they did. Mainly because that was how she operated with her ex.

Something that is especially important to Dawn, and she speaks about how it was devastating, is how when you are in a toxic relationship, your body takes on the weight from the negativity. She speaks about how she had frozen shoulders and couldn’t lift her arms amongst other physical issues that ceased to exist once she ended the relationship.  Can you imagine how crazy that is. Your body takes on the physical attributes of your mental state.  

All this and more inside this episode.

Say hello to Dawn Alyse, mother of three grown children, an entrepreneur, and recently divorced from a 22 year marriage.  As you tune in to each episode, prepare yourself for what you are about to endure. Dawn has gone through some serious obstacles to get to where she is today. Currently in debt., in court, and in love with herself again. She tells us how one of the hardest things she had to deal with was the guilt of leaving her relationship. She also shared how she was going to leave, but then she got pregnant and stayed, and how that happened more than once. She explains how she was programmed to stay, to be tough, and to suppress her emotions.

This conversation dives deep into the soul of what being Dawn has been, and she allows us, the audience, to follow her on a guided tour of what she has had to overcome to get to where she is today. Brace yourself, you will hear things you cannot unhear.

In this episode I talk about something personal and what it means. I read you something I wrote and then reflect on how that makes me feel. I shed a layer of thoughts that I believe makes my situation transparent. As I listened to it prior to posting, I was thinking if I should release it, then moments later chose to do it. I chose to do it because being transparent is important to me. It's the line between being vulnerable or being boxed. 

When I set out to do this and become a voice for this process, I invited people to be courageous, to be vulnerable, because it makes a difference.  Each time I face a fear or am stifled by a limitation and then act on it, I am reminded that my fears, if left to drive me, would always send me in the wrong direction.  I am still human and I more often than not am stifled, but not today, not today SATAN. 

I cannot express to you how important it has been for me to speak out and up about what I see, what I observe, and what I find to be useful for those of us going through or healing from a divorce. Speaking has been my ultimate access to releasing the past and creating a future. 

I invite you to consider that speaking up and out will do something for you. BE Courageous, BE Vulnerable.  IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE

In this last episode with Sadie I find myself talking more, which is rare for me. I normally listen and ask questions that relate with the conversation. Something happened over the course of our conversation where it just felt like we were old buddies shooting the shit together. That is a priceless experience. As an audience you should still expect to be contributed to, especially around journaling, observations, and the importance of investing in yourself.

We started off as strangers, learning and sharing about each other from opposite ends of the mic, and by the end, I felt like I knew her. I hope you are also left with that. I hope that you leave a little wiser and more prepared than when you first found us. 

In this episode we look at what could have been done differently through Sadies eyes. What that looks like, and what it looked like for her. For instance, Sadie admits that she would’ve been braver and bolder, and less pleasing. Stating the importance of how ,if she had done that for herself back then, she would have had freedom much sooner. She advocates for others to find a way and do what you want to do. Reinforcing the value of you as a person, and giving you the recipe for how to create self worth in the process. But, most importantly, she shares how to not talk yourself out of your dreams. 

In this episode I talk about our default saying of I'm sorry inside my context. What it made me feel, what I did, and what I would do differently knowing what I know today. I experienced an abundance of freedom when I spoke to people during my process when they shared those words with me. 9 out of 10 times whomever spoke with me understood why I wanted to transform that language most of us use as a default. It became yet another opportunity to shift what was not working for me, into what does. 

As I recall those moments today, I remember feeling grounded and more rooted each time I engaged in these talks. They allowed me and others the space to look beyond the pain or the loss, and to be responsible for what is available. It was and still is some of my most treasured moments post divorce.

In this episode we look at the past and begin to see where it can be altered. Sadie and I just talked about what it looked like to live for someone else, as women have done for hundreds of years. We explore the root of how women were conditioned to take care of everyone else except themselves, and we both say FUCK THAT! 

It’s 2021 and although it is nice and rewarding to be of service to others, we MUST be first when it comes to our own well being. 

In this episode we start with Sadie distinguishing how she was conditioned from childhood to be fearful. To think that everything was going to go wrong. She explains how it carried over to her marriage, waiting for the next thing to go wrong. She talks about the ripple effect of that thought process and how it affected her health, and everything else. 

She also gives you insights into how she changed that old way of being with specific details about her new patterns. The importance of who she surrounds herself with, and what she says to herself to encourage and empower a better result. 

You can hear in Sadie’s story how she has been conscious of the work she is doing. A trait that is similar amongst most of us that have made divorce a positive in our lives. 

That is something I wish to remind you of, which is that it takes work. Creating a new life, or a new path takes planning and attention. The more you apply yourself towards the things that you know work for you, the higher the chance that you will attain it. Nothing is easy, and you can hear it in Sadie’s story. She began to work on what helped her without forgetting what didn’t.