In this episode we learn how Stacie decided to leave the marriage, where she went first, and how quickly she began to remember who she was and how important her happiness is. We hear what she has to say about what it was like when she finally decided to separate. The terror she had that something could happen and the pressure to make things work out. Most of all she talks about trying to be perfect and what that felt like.  

This episode takes us to when she breaks free from the broken cycle and tastes the new life she leaped into with her daughter and what that felt like. She doesn't leave any details of what she encountered out, you really get a sense of what it was like for her.

If you are about to contemplate leaving and haven’t yet heard a story that will cause you, this is the one. Stacie shares her story in an elegant and peaceful way. A way any and all of us could learn from. 

In this episode we continue where we left off and dig a little deeper into the details of what trying to help looks like. It seemed that the more she tried, the more pissed off he would get.  The shock value behind knowing that your significant other is hiding something  and the frustration of seeing your time being subtracted.

After he stopped touching her, she knew they were heading towards a bad place. In March she was aware that things were getting bad, by June she and her daughter had moved out.  Stacie shares what she did during that time. From talking with her daughter more frequently to being more mad, than sad, at the situation. Wait till the end of the interview when she tells you about the time she learned... 

In this episode I look at the level of attention that I give to being conscious of this question. When we begin to look at what makes us happy and the moments when we were happy.  We look at the elements that are present and see what we have around us, the atmosphere, and who we are in those moments. With this observation of the past we can look at how we want to design the future ahead of us. 

Stacie Wimer is a single mother with a teenage daughter who lived with her ex for eight years before realizing he was addicted to alcohol. In this episode we learn about what she finds important in life and what reality looked like for a while. How they met and what the glue was that kept them together. The complications and the burden it was until she gave the ultimatum.  What you are about to listen to is the journey of woman trying to do the right thing, and the price we pay for not listening to ourselves. She did not hide from her truth for one second, but it took a second to get there.

What I learned in this episode and the episodes to come is how much we give to others without being mindful of what we need. Stacie shares her life without filters for us to take a glance and hopefully not repeat the same mistake. Her interview is completely unedited and it reveals the truth behind her closed doors. From the stigma associated with telling the truth to how quickly the loyalty was divided when families had to choose sides. I hope you find strength in her story. As an audience, I hope you hear what I did, which is the cost we pay for wanting it to work out, time.

In this episode we look at what asking for help looks like and what the benefits are. We explore a situation where I was experiencing the need for something, didn't know what it was, and soon discovered that asking for help would provide me knowledge on what I was asking about and so much more. 

Help is my new favorite word. It builds community and allows others to contribute. It is an inclusive word that when spoken alters and shifts reality into one of group, and not individualtiy.

In our last episode with Dr. Banks we begin to wrap up the conversation and ask for her thoughts on what she would do differently knowing what she knows now. Who was hurt more? Who knew when it was over, and who deserves to find happiness? We look at what she would’ve begun earlier in the process and look back to see if things could’ve been different if another approach was possible. Overall, Dr. Banks walks us through a sincere reflection of where she was and where she is now. 

In every interview I learn something new about our guests, like you, I am most times learning about them just like you for the first time. 90% of the interviews I do not know my guests at the beginning, but by the end I know that they will always be in my life. This podcast has been the biggest gift I have ever received. Allowing you and I the opportunity to listen, as we just did, to stories that speak to what we endure and the mindset of who we once were that overcame such a drastic time.  

What a privilege it is and continues to be. 

In this episode we begin with a request to find someone to be curious about and then complete with being responsible for leaving the marriage.  We examine the importance of finding someone who is as curious about you as you are of them. The benefits of that and the obvious observation that if you need to question it, then you are questioning it.  According to Dr. Banks, relationships rely on more than just good looks.  It takes something to be a match. Learn what makes you a match for the good Doctor.

All this and more inside this bite sized episode of insightful tools to consider while navigating the first six months of your divorce.

In this episode I pick up the mic and say what is there for me.  No reason, no theme, just words from the heart. I talk about what it is like to speak into an empty space without feedback. Knowing that the information is quality, but scared of showing my face. I ask you, the audience, to say something to me so that I know that I am not alone. 

We begin this episode where we left off.  Dr. Banks was learning from her ex that he was going to be married again. She expresses her concern about it, not about him getting remarried, but about her wanting to meet this new woman who is going to be in her child’s life. 

I’ll let you hear how she tells her ex, but if you are like me, it will make you laugh.  Dr. Banks brings up a valid point in this episode. It’s important to meet the other persons new spouse to be, they are going to be part of the parenting experience.  After we discussed the new marriage and what that looked like, we went into a few other topics. 

The subjects varied from shaming around drinking wine in front of her daughter and being shamed for it, to wanting a man that is curious about her.  It’s a really funny and insightful episode, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

In this episode Dr. Banks explains how divorce is a grieving process. You grieve and then you forgive. She talks about acceptance and how that looks post divorce. She shares about what it was like to deal with the dating apps, as well as, the expectations of when she would be in a relationship again. 

We talk about wanting the other person to be happy, about acceptance, and accepting the situation.  All the things she learned and created in her process. And then she shares about how she learned her ex was getting married. All this and more in this bite sized flavorful episode.