In this episode we explore the benefits of being active from the perspective of mind, body, and soul. I talk about thinking and thoughts. How they affect you and what you are creating. What happens when you are not active and what happens when you are active. The importance of activity and the ripple effect of what happens when you are intentional about it. Stay tuned till the end, where I explain how to transition what you learned into actionable results by learning how to manage it.

In this episode Dr. Banks really lets loose and speaks about her daughter and how she reacted to the divorce. There is a great story between her and her daughter. Dr. Banks shares that it took place in the kitchen, where they cried, and then both agreed. I will not reveal more because it is worth finding it yourself, instead of me telling you. I will say this, she also expresses how valuable her therapist was and the many things they had in common.

Allowing the bond between therapist all the more related. Making the therapy that much more effective. She also shared that she is still in communication with her therapist, even through Covid. 

Dr. Banks lets you into her world and you smell the air and taste the ingredients she used to understand and make work all the obstacles that didn't, as well as, what it was like in those first six months.

In this episode we learn details about the moment Dr. Banks tells her ex that she is done. What she was doing to plan the exit and how she finally chose to tell him. We talk about the biggest take away and what it was for her. What it was like to be a person of faith, black, and in a community where the concept of divorce is that you do not get divorced. All this and more are inside this episode, so press play and stay tuned.

In this episode we explore what it looks like to be hard on yourself, what it looks like and some examples from my own personal life. What happened to me and how I handled it successfully. Looking at it from the perspective of what to do, how to stop it, or at least understand it. 

Welcome the episode 24 series with Dr. Kay Banks. A college professor and mother who before she got on the plane to go to Italy, thought her life was over. Eight years of marriage with little to no arguments, her then husband just put her suitcases on the curb.  Dr. Banks talks about the process of when it happened, the thoughts behind the decisions, and what she did when she got back from Italy. The apps, Netflix, and the reading that kept her busy.  She also talks about what was the straw that broke the camel's back.

Her story is so unique, and yet it is so familiar . She is a scholastically accomplished woman, she has accolades and acknowledgements with achievements and ambitions to last a few lifetimes. Nothing is not in the realm of unattainable for her, yet there she was. Breaking down.  With only her humanity and the ability to  guide her out of the coma that is divorce, she did it. 

There is so much in this series that speaks to the process and building that you really do not want to miss out on listening to Dr. Kay Banks and her story. 

In this episode we complete our interview with Philip. He shares his last few insights before we play a game with words and say goodbye till next time. He has an amazing reflection on how when we get older and as we look back we have memories. He then asks what memories do you want to create right now. 

He reflects on how their is not a lot of men speaking about their feelings and how what he has heard out in the world by others speaking on the topic is not empowering, it’s almost toxic. He gives an example of what he has heard and how his interpretation is that men are speaking about women as if they only wanted to screw men over. He also mentions how hard it will be to find a woman if you are already thinking that every woman is going to screw you over.

Philip has shared with us a different perspective over the course of his interview. He shared from an honest place and one close to home, himself. He gave us his story, what he did, and what he is doing now. 

What I take away from this particular story is that no matter how bad we think we have it, it is our thinking that gives us that perspective. So, as you continue to go through what you are going through, in whatever stage you may be in. Remember, you are the source of what will happen when it comes to your perspective. So...Create what you want and be mindful of what you react to.  

In this episode we explore the emotional stages from my perspective.  What they meant, how they showed up, and what I did to face them. The stages, each unique, and all of them a phase of the divorce process represent a different obstacle inside the divorce. Looking back at them now and analyzing, great insight can be gained in what to expect and how to prepare for it.

In this episode we start off with addressing how men do not talk about their feelings. How we do not address that side of the healing process with each other and how we could really learn from women in that area. We look at the importance of thoughts and how they translate into actions, how we can be responsible for what we think and ways to be more intentional about what we think. 

This episode shares valuable insights into thinking and the actionable results it creates in the physical world. It gives you a Philip that reveals his tools, how he used them, and what he created out of being intentional with what he has learned. Grab your pen and paper and turn off all distractions, you are going to want to absorb what is being said in this episode.

In this episode we talk about opportunity, perspective, and the past. We talk about being conscious and what that looks like. Philip also shares an exercise he does with his alarm clock to keep him grounded throughout the day. It’s the little insights that are shared with us that give us a chance to do something different. 

This episode gives you a lot of little nuggets to look at and examine. It provides us with Philip’s way of handling things in a way where we can also adopt it if we choose to.

In this episode we explore the rules of divorce and creating a context of game around it. From the initial moment you know it is over to the final judgement I share some examples of what happened to me, how I reacted and what was created. In this conversation you can expect to see things from a different perspective, hopefully one that allows you to have more play and freedom around the inevitable.