Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Do Narcissistic Hijackals Hurt You on Purpose?


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So often, clients and members ask me if the relentless difficult, toxic people in their lives are that way on purpose.

Followed closely by the question: does s/he want to hurt me?


Have you wondered if your mean, blaming partner wants to hurt you?

Did you have a #Hijackal parent who told you you were unwanted, or never good enough?

Are you in a toxic relationship now?


#Hijackals are made, not born. A baby may start life with some leanings, but it's the people in their lives and in the world around them as they gron that influence and teach them how to survive. If you have a #Hijackal parent, you will have had lessons in being unsafe, dismissed, invalidated, and at fault. That's what Hijackal parents do.


#Narcissists get offended easily, don't they? #Narcissists are hypersensitive to disrespect, disloyalty, or anyone they think is trying to take something from them. Because they really have no interest in your needs, wants, feelings, or thoughts, they are also not concerned about you. They only care about themselves.


Similarly, narcissistic people don't care much about their children's feelings or needs. They care that they APPEAR to be good parents to the community, but they often do little to BE good parents to their children. I know. It's hard to believe that, but it's too often the truth. Hijackals are only interested in the children reflecting well on them, not on providing stability, love, direction, and care to them.


So, do they intentionally hurt you? Do they do nasty things on purpose? Listen in, and recognize these truths.


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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • What happened in early life to create narcissistic tendencies
  • Are #Hijackals self-aware?
  • Why toxic people are actually insecure
  • Healthier ways to manage toxic relationships
  • Keeping yourself safe ...and your children
  • Making sound decisions about relationship


You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.


Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my

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If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.


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Big hugs,

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

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