Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn’t come naturally to them. Her husband’s moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years.

Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna’s program but never mentioned it to her husband, fearing it might hurt his feelings. Eventually, after reaching a breaking point, they had an honest conversation and decided to try the Doing It Together program. Chloe shares how surprised she was by what she discovered about herself, especially the depth of certain issues she hadn’t fully recognized before.

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Tim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn’t. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him.

Thankfully, Tim’s wife discovered Janna’s podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immediately recognized their own experience in what was being shared, and they decided to sign up for the program. In the men’s group, Tim was able to open up honestly with other men for the first time and realize he wasn’t alone. Meanwhile, in the women’s program, his wife discovered she wasn’t broken either.

For the first time in years, they felt like they were on the same team, working together to find a solution. Listen to why Tim now feels free from the emotional turmoil that sex had caused in his life, and why he and his wife have never been closer.

Episode References:

Zoe’s Episode 121: https://jannadentonhowes.com/121-breaking-the-cycle-zoes-30-year-journey-to-reclaim-intimacy/

Ep. 79: https://jannadentonhowes.com/79-is-wanting-it-more-the-right-program-to-solve-my-low-libido-problem/

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33-year-old Bri was convinced something was wrong with her. She hadn't been intimate with her husband in over two years, and their once passionate relationship had dwindled to a series of weekly arguments and frustrations on both sides. She was convinced she had low libido because she was too young to have lost interest in sex—what else could it be?

After following Janna for several years, Bri and her husband decided to enroll in Doing It Together to finally understand what had gone wrong with their sexual relationship. Through the program, they learned how to break old patterns and replace them with healthier ways of connecting and expressing themselves. Bri shares what she discovered about effective communication, compassion, and empowerment—along with the importance of putting her needs first and speaking her mind.

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Jason describes himself as an adventurous thrill-seeker, always in search of a rush. When he discovered the internet in college and the types of images and videos that could be accessed secretly and anonymously, it led him down a dark path marked by decades of manipulation, lying, and gaslighting as he tried to protect his secret behaviours.

His marriage suffered as a result, but he was unable to recognize the damage his actions were causing to his wife. He believed he knew the "right way" for intimacy to look, so that became the path they tried to follow. This only left him feeling more frustrated and her feeling more broken.

It wasn't until they discovered Doing It Together that they both realized this wasn't just a "her" problem to fix. Once they understood the root issues, they were able to address them together and begin healing.

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As a young girl trying to understand sex and sexuality, Kelly experienced a lot of shame from her parents and the small-town culture she grew up in. Without any sex education, she and her friends had to figure things out on their own, trying their best to support each other along the way.

Now, as a mother raising two daughters, Kelly still sees the same shame directed at young women and the sexualized way they are often viewed. These messages had a significant impact on Kelly’s own intimate life with her husband. It wasn’t until she heard other women share their stories on this podcast that she finally understood why she felt so disconnected from the experience.

Kelly is now happy to join the many others who have shared their stories in this space. She talks about what she and her husband have learned about true sexual intimacy and what she is teaching her children to help remove shame from the conversation.

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Zack had always thought of himself as respectful towards women—until he confronted the reality of how his daily consumption of porn, starting at age 12, affected his relationship with his wife. For over 20 years, this habit was a part of his life, and though he never intended to objectify anyone, he learned that it deeply harmed his ability to connect emotionally and intimately with his wife. 

Through the Doing It Together program, Zack took a hard look at his behaviors and realized just how much his actions were impacting his relationship. Now, free from this pattern, he and his wife have experienced a dramatic transformation in their shared intimacy. His wife now feels completely safe and valued in their connection, something Zack hadn’t fully understood was missing before. Zack’s story shows how personal reflection and growth can bring profound healing, not just for ourselves, but for our marriages as well.

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Janna is joined by Danielle, the creator, host, and executive producer of the Sex Ed with DB podcast. Danielle's current series, Rom-Com V🤮m, is a rewatch podcast focused on 90s and early 2000s rom-coms. In it, she unpacks the toxic lessons these films teach about sex and attempts to rewrite the script.

In this episode, Janna and Danielle dive into several iconic sex scenes from movies and TV, analyzing the messages they convey—both positive and negative. They explore how these scenes create unrealistic expectations, particularly the pressure women often face to perform like fictional characters in scripted moments. Tune in to learn how to dissect what you're watching and recognize the cultural pressures these scenes perpetuate.

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In this week’s episode, Janna sits down with Zoe, who shares her deeply personal journey through 30 years of struggles with intimacy in her marriage. For years, what was meant to be a natural part of life became a chore—a cycle of guilt, resentment, and exhaustion that left her feeling broken. Even after the kids moved out, Zoe thought the situation would improve, but it didn’t. When her husband expressed his dissatisfaction, Zoe blamed herself, unsure how to break free from the pattern that had trapped her for decades.

But everything changed when Zoe found this podcast. In the episodes, she discovered she wasn’t alone. Other women were struggling with the same issues, and hearing their stories opened up new possibilities for her and her marriage. Today, Zoe feels a sense of freedom she never thought possible. Tune in to hear her story and learn how breaking the cycle is not only possible—it's transformative. If you’ve been feeling stuck, this episode could be the first step toward reclaiming your intimacy, joy, and connection.

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In this empowering solo episode of Doing It Together, host Janna Denton-Howes delves into the transformative power of self-advocacy for women. Janna, a seasoned relationship coach and sex educator, shares her insights on overcoming cultural barriers to embrace true pleasure and connection. Discover the essential stages of self-advocacy, the roadblocks you might face, and the importance of understanding your unique needs.

Janna also introduces her new program, Wanting It More Foundations, designed to empower women to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Join the conversation and learn how to advocate for yourself and foster deeper intimacy.

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Too often, societal pressures push women into roles where productivity and selflessness overshadow the importance of personal joy and connection. Instead of being encouraged to embrace their desires and fully experience their bodies, many women find themselves burdened by guilt, expectation, and a sense of duty to provide for others. This episode uncovers how these ingrained beliefs create barriers to genuine enjoyment in the bedroom, and lead women to feel a low desire for sex.

Janna shares practical steps for rediscovering joy in life, helping women reconnect with their bodies and desires. By breaking free from the notion of how they "should" act in bed, listeners can learn to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience rooted in authenticity and self-love.

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