Today, I speak with Dr. Josh Smith. The conversation delves into the concept of shadow work, exploring the definition of a shadow and its impact on relationships and attachment styles. It also discusses the challenges of self-awareness, the influence of environment on behavior, and the dynamics of scorekeeping in relationships. The conversation delves into the concept of people-pleasing and the impact of learned behaviors on decision-making. It explores the challenges of setting boundaries, understanding personal desires, and breaking free from familiar patterns. The discussion also touches on the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to embrace discomfort in order to make authentic choices.

We talk about:

-Shadow work involves integrating the parts of oneself that are denied or hidden, leading to a deeper understanding of one's complexity and a sense of humility.

-The environment in which a person grows up influences their behavior and the way they perceive 'normal,' leading to challenges in self-acceptance and authenticity.

-Scorekeeping in relationships can impact the way individuals interact and perceive their own worth, leading to patterns of accommodation, entitlement, and difficulty in maintaining balance.

-The journey of self-discovery and personal development involves unlearning the need to conform and adapting to environments where one feels accepted for being their true self. The struggle of people-pleasers to make decisions based on their own desires rather than trying to -please others.

The importance of self-awareness and the willingness to embrace discomfort in order to make authentic choices.

-The impact of learned behaviors on decision-making and the challenges of setting boundaries.

-The need to understand personal desires and break free from familiar patterns in order to live authentically.

Time Stamps: 

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

02:19 Exploring the Depths of Shadow Work and Self-Integration

08:01 The Influence of Environment on Behavior and Self-Acceptance

35:43 The Struggle of People-Pleasing and Decision-Making

49:33 The Impact of Learned Behaviors and Setting Boundaries

01:01:34 Embracing Discomfort and Making Authentic Choices

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