From Sobriety To Recovery: An Addiction Recovery Podcast

Don't take things personally; It's them, not you, Ep26


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Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you, it's because of them. When we take something personally, we make the assumption they know what's in our world, and we try to impose our world on theirs.

 Why is not taking anything personally important?

  • Because you are in control of your world, not theirs, so you have no idea why they just behaved that way toward you.
  • Reacting emotionally is your old way of thinking and this new, better you, is more grounded and centered in your life and sobriety joureny.
  • What is not taking things personally look like.

    • You shrug off insults
  • You understand that people can still CHOOSE to believe in the old you, to see the old you, to think that nobody ever changes and you will always be who you were.
    • That is their limiting mindset about themselves and not for you to take on as fact. Their poison is for them to take alone.

    How to not take things personally

    Remember what someone say to you, about you, or around you is their own opinion of the world as they see it - it is their projection of their belief system upon you and not yours, so don't pay it any mind.

  • Breathe deep and think about what it would do to you to take on their insult as fact and why you know that's not helpful to your sobriety.

  • Laugh it off, walk away, continue doing what ever it is you were doing are acceptable responses to thier indignity toward you.

    Remember - reacting is with emotion, responding is with thought.

    What if you find yourself taking things personally.

    • Breathe into the moment and ask yourself if it is worth your energy to take their poison as your own.
  • Look at their actions as their own pain and suffering that they have to look forward to evolving from and then see if you can be of service to them.
  • Be introspective of your actions and see where you can be a better role model for how to act in stressful situations.
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