Jessica Buchanan is the guest this episode. She is inspiring, humble, & generous. She shares her traumatic experience in a way that makes other people not feel less than because their experience wasn't as extreme as hers. No matter what you've been through, or are going through, Jessica has a way of making you feel a connection and validation.

Jessica Buchanan: Teacher, Best Selling Author, Humanitarian, Speaker, Kidnapping Survivor. On October 25, 2011, while on a routine field mission in Somalia, working as the Education Advisor for her non-governmental organization, Jessica was abducted at gunpoint and held for ransom by a group of Somali pirates for 93 days. Forced to live outdoors in deplorable conditions, starved, and terrorized by more than two dozen gangsters, Jessica’s health steadily deteriorated until, by order of President Obama, she was rescued by the elite SEAL Team VI on January 25, 2012. Jessica’s ordeal is detailed in her New York Times bestselling book, Impossible Odds: The Kidnapping of Jessica Buchanan and Her Dramatic Rescue by SEAL Team Six. Jessica has been named one of the ‘150 Women Who will Shake the World’ by Newsweek, and her story has been one of the most highly viewed 60 Minutes episodes to air, to date. Jessica has shared her story of overcoming impossible odds on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, The Today Show, Stephen Colbert, The Unbeatable Mind with Navy SEAL Mark Divine, and All the Wiser with Kimi Culp, just to name a few. Jessica’s story was the subject of Wondery’s Season 2 Against The Odds and her TEDx Pearl Street talk, ‘Change is Your Proof of Life’ has been the foundation for which she travels the world, inspiring audiences to access their resilience by identifying their own autonomy and choice in the middle of their own life changing event, even when they feel they are out of options. Jessica is the founder of Soul Speak Press, an imprint of Merack Publishing, where she supports women who are ready to share their stories through Memoir Manifestos- books that are one part memoir, one part self-help, and one part inspiration. Soul Speak Press’s inaugural book, Deserts to Mountaintops: Our Collective Journey to (re) Claiming Our Voice, an anthology of 25 inspiring women’s stories, reached bestseller status in 13 categories on Amazon during its debut in January 2023.

Jessica believes in giving back and so is actively committed to supporting The Navy SEAL Foundation, which works to support families of active duty and fallen SEALs as an ambassador and fundraising supporter. Jessica also acts as a family liaison volunteer for the non-profit organization, Hostage US, supporting former hostages and their families during captivity and eventual return.

Connect with Jessica:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicacbuchanan/

Buy "Impossible Odds": https://a.co/d/39BVxNG

Buy "Deserts to Mountaintops": https://a.co/d/cddEkzB

Jessica's Website: https://www.jessbuchanan.com/

Connect with Ginny:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Website: www.ginnypriem.com

Buy "You're My Favorite": https://a.co/d/entVY1W

There is a ton of data out there that suggests how beneficial celebrating wins, successes, accomplishments and achievements are. Recently, Ginny's book,You're My Favorite, became a #1 best seller on Amazon, which was a huge accomplishment. Immediately, she reached out to two different friends to celebrate over the phone with. Are you celebrating your successes enough? It got Ginny thinking about other accomplishments, like reaching 100 book reviews on Amazon and 1,000 followers on Instagram, even getting a clean bill of health after a recent routine mammogram. No matter how big or small, it's important to celebrate our wins. There's a reason why patients ring a bell after completely a course of chemotherapy. It signifies and commemorates a success. Celebrating doesn't have to be an elaborate party. It could be dinner with some friends. Or coffee or happy with a friend. It could be publicly on social media or it could be treating yourself to some self care. Celebrating our successes is important and contagious. Contagious not just for ourselves, but it can grant others permission to celebrate their own accomplishments. This positivity puts us in a good mood and releases endorphins. And if you're a believer of manifestation, you will continue to bring this positivity and attract more wins. Using affirmations can reinforce and motivate you to win again. Saying "I am a winner" can make you more likely to keep winning. Writing down your achievements can also reinforce this and help of maintain an attitude of gratitude. If you have been in an abusive or toxic relationship, whether romantic, familiar or parental, this may be more difficult for you to do if you haven't felt allowed to celebrate your successes. You may want an accountability partner or to seek therapy for help with this. Making celebrations part of your routine can become a healthy and positive habit. You may even keep a tracker or journal of all of your wins and revisit if you're having a moment of doubt or a down day. This may be able to help boost you back up when you take a look at all of the things you've been able to accomplish. It's no fun to be around negativity, but it is fun to be around positivity and celebrate one another. It just feels good and can lead to more success. Let's celebrate together! Feel free to send Ginny a note about one of your successes, wins, accomplishment or achievements to celebrate you!

Ginny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Ginny's website: www.ginnypriem.com

Ginny's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem

Ginny's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/

Interesting articles on celebrating success: https://deborahbyrnepsychologyservices.com/?s=celebrate+success

https://hbr.org/2022/01/celebrate-to-win

https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesagencycouncil/2022/05/12/how-celebrating-success-can-lead-to-more-of-it/?sh=69837c442eca

This episode was inspired by Jason Matheson from "The Jason Show" asking Ginny during her guest appearance, if there was ever a time during the relationship with Chad if her spidey-senses kicked in. The answer is ABSOLUTELY! There were clear signs, situations and indicators that something was wrong. Sometimes people want something to work out so badly that they may ignore these signs...intuition, hunches, gut feelings, or call them what you will. Do you believe in intuition? Do you trust your intuition? While Ginny never envisioned or necessarily desired having a family unit like this, she loved having this family of 4. We might ignore red flags because we're too far into a relationship, job, or certain situation and we feel like we've invested too much. Ginny talks openly about how her hands get tingly when she has a strong, intuitive feeling about something. Do you have an intuitive sensation? There's also a distinct difference between intuition, instinct and logic. Intuition is a based and formed around experiences. Instinct is more hardwired and less flexible, like a primal or fight or flight reaction. Instinct is innate. For example, if you hear a lion roar behind you, you will likely run for the hills. And logic is more logical and rational. You may use processes or spreadsheets to make decisions. They use the example of doing your taxes in the Positive Psychology article. You probably wouldn't lean on your intuition to determine how much you owe in taxes. The scientists outline that there is still a lot unknown about intuition, and it's somewhat challenging to define, but that it is still important. They reference several books in the article, including Malcolm Gladwell's book, "Blink". There is even a YouTube video linked in the article that you can watch on intuition. Decision making is likely to be a combination of intuitive and rational analysis. Have you ever had an intuition, a gut feeling, a hunch that you ignored and it turned out to be right? Send a message and share your story.

Positive Psychology Article: https://positivepsychology.com/intuition/

Merriam Webster intuition definition: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/intuition

Link to Ginny's guest appearance on The Jason Show: https://fb.watch/lhPFYsAhi2/

Ginny's website: www.ginnypriem.com

Ginny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Ginny's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem

Ginny's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/

TW: This episode contains mention of addiction & suicide. If you are not in a place to listen to this content, please join in on another episode. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

In this 2-part episode, Ginny chats with Allie Enggren & Samantha Mello of "The Twisted Sisters" podcast. Allie & Samantha met while in beauty school together and bonded over being teen moms before becoming best friends. While they say opposites attract, Allie & Sam say that they also know too many of each other's secrets to ever break their bond. It's amazing that each of these ladies are thriving after everything they've been through. In part 1, we heard more about Samantha & Allie's friendship and a little more about some of what Allie's been through and how her life has been shaped. In part 2, we hear Samantha's raw journey of trauma & adversity and how she's come out stronger on the other side.

Listen to The Twisted Sister's podcast episode where Ginny was their guest: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-my-favorite-a-true-minnesota-story-with-ginny-priem/id1611111333?i=1000610505987

The Twisted Sisters info:

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-twisted-sisters-podcast/id1611111333

Website: https://thetwistedsisterspodcast.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the_twistedsisterspodcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_twistedsisterspodcast/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetwistedsisterspodcast?lang=en

Allie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allieenggren_realtor/

Samantha's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SamanthaR.Mello

Ginny's Info:

Website: www.ginnypriem.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGyzQcBdoL1GoLaBCkE9Bag

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ginnypriem

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/

Ginny sits down with board-certified dermatologist & friend, Dr. Mohiba Tareen. In the fall of 2018, Ginny needed Dr. Tareen's help. She had a huge lump growing rapidly above her right eye and her face and eye were swelling terribly. She was concerned. Dr. Tareen was also concerned and was able to see her rather quickly. Upon entering the room, Dr. Tareen diagnosed Ginny with singles...on her face. This seemed unusual since she was only in her 30's, but Dr. Tareen asked right away, "Have you been under a lot of stress?" That's what sparked this episode and the important dialogue around the topic of how stress manifests in our hair, skin & nails. Who better to have this conversation with than an expert?! Ginny wondered if our bodies sometimes know we're under stress before our minds can catch up. Dr. Tareen unpacks how stress can impact the skin with things like shingles, acne, eczema, psoriasis, precancerous lesions...or even melanoma. Ginny also experienced significant hair loss & breakage during this time, as identified by her hair stylist. Dr. Tareen let us know that this is very common, especially in women. She breaks down the 3 different phases of hair growth and how they play a part: telogen, anagen & catagen. Dr. Tareen didn't just talk about the issues, but also provided solutions to all of these issues. In nails, you may also experience breakage and Dr. Tareen shared that picking cuticles & skin is also common when people are under stress. And of course, it wouldn't be a complete conversation with a board-certified dermatologist if we didn't talk prevention (your skin is your largest organ!) and sun protection. Dr. Tareen unpacked the best sunscreens and that you need to protect your skin from both UVA (aging) and UVA (burning) rays and the best way to do this is with a physical block, like a zinc. Get your skin checks, take vitamin D, wear sun protection, & invest in a hat.

Dr. Mohiba Tareen Bio:

Dr. Mohiba Tareen is a highly-regarded board-certified dermatologist. She is the Founder and Medical Director of Tareen Dermatology. Since its establishment in 2011, Tareen Dermatology has grown to five locations - Roseville, Faribault, Maplewood, Monticello, MN, with its newest location in Hudson, WI.
Dr. Tareen is a magna cum laude graduate of the University of Michigan, where she was a member of the Phi Beta Kappa honor society. She earned her medical degree at the University of Michigan and was inducted into the Alpha Omega Alpha Honor Medical Society. She was awarded two prestigious scholarships in medical school: The Glasgow-Rubin Award to the top 5 female graduates and the MAPI award for the number one academic student of Indian descent.
Dr. Tareen completed her dermatology residency at Columbia Presbyterian Medical Center in New York, New York. During this time, she also lectured extensively and had her work published in several prestigious medical journals, including The New England Journal of Medicine. In addition, she was awarded the Conrad Stritzler Award of the New York Dermatological Society while a second-year resident.
Dr. Tareen completed a prestigious Procedural Dermatology Fellowship where she specialized in advanced laser, surgery, and cosmetic dermatology. She subsequently practiced medical and cosmetic dermatology in Manhattan. She comes from a family of doctors and is married to a urologist, with whom she has five beautiful children.

Tareen Dermatology Information:

Website: www.tareendermatology.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TareenDermatology

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tareendermatology/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tareenderm

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TareenDermatology/featured

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tareen-dermatology/

Ginny's Socials:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGyzQcBdoL1GoLaBCkE9Bag

This episode is all about real confidence. How do you define confidence? Ginny explores some ideas of what it is and what it isn't. Is this something that impacts women more than men? In this world of social media, it seems as though some may have started valuing themselves based on things like how many followers they have on Instagram or TikTok or how many likes they get on their stories, posts, reels, or YouTube shorts. Confidence isn't about seeking external validation. Someone who exudes confidence is Dolly Parton and she's quoted saying in an @Oprahdaily article that when you are comfortable with yourself, the right people are drawn to you. Here at Drinking With Gin, we're going to put our own little twist on it and at that when you have confidence and are comfortable with yourself, the right people are drawn to you. Confidence is being able to walk into a room and not compare yourself to anyone else. It's not judging others, which can be oh so hard to do. It's accepting accountability, responsibility and taking ownership. Confidence is being able to admit your weaknesses and shout someone else's name that might be a better fit for something than you are, especially when they're not even in the room. Being famous on social media is a little bit like being rich at Monopoly or landing that big job in the game of Life. Real confidence is about how much you genuinely like yourself. That's the real rich.

Send in your questions or thoughts on confidence!

Resources:

Life Hack article: https://www.lifehack.org/339425/real-confidence-isnt-like-what-most-people-think-of

Oprah Daily: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/g26194014/strong-confident-women-quotes/?slide=17

Ginny's Website: www.ginnypriem.com

Ginny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Audio Engineer: @bustabrent

Unpacking some potential red flags in romantic relationships or romantic interests. Ginny speaks much from her own experience in real life with "Chad." A common theme is that we need to trust ourselves and what feels right, or doesn't feel right, for us. If something seems nonsensical, it probably doesn't make sense. And no one is going to know what's right (or wrong) for you, better than you! Some of the things outlined here: Are they shady with their phone or constantly on it but doing "nothing" on it or talking to "no one?" Do they have weird notification settings on their phone, get a new phone number often, or use several different apps to communicate with different people? Pay attention to how they treat you in public vs private. Are your timelines aligned as to how quickly or slowly things are moving in the relationship? Is it too fast or too slow? Do they have long-standing friendships or other close relationships in their life? If not, this could be an indicator as to their ability to maintain relationships in general. Or if they've always been wronged and have a revolving door of friends in their life, this could be a big red flag. Lying, especially pathological lying can be detrimental to a romantic relationship or any type of relationship. Gaslighting, manipulation, jealousy, or constant criticism could be red flags as well. Inconsistency: How do they treat you in public vs private? Do they even take you in public? Do certain things just not add up, like their finances? Love bombing: are they over the top with showering & showering you with gifts, notes, cards, flowers, fancy dinners, concerts, sporting events & putting you on a pedestal? Open communication should be key. If they dodge difficult conversations and are secretive or don't support the exciting things you have going on or support the relationship, these could be red flags. And if they are having to sell you on how great they are...Ginny says to run the other way! No one should have to sell you on how good of a friend, person, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc they are. People will show you who they are. See that.

Show reference: Tell Me Lies (Hulu)

Women's Health Article: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a24800980/relationship-red-flags/

The Twisted Sisters Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5nEgskHRMD4RzcyxxFfsJo?si=ptNvWOepTAqcluqVMKmdpg

Connect with Ginny:

W: www.ginnypriem.com

I: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

F: https://www.facebook.com/Ginnypriem

L: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginny-priem-8a87248/

Y: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGyzQcBdoL1GoLaBCkE9Bag