Is there something you've been procrastinating? Or what about waiting to be ready to start something? This episode is chock-full of useful and scientific information -- including the makeup of and possible contributors of the wiring of the brain -- on why we procrastinate and how to improve in this area. People may want to wait until they're ready to start something, but according to Seth Godin, if you wait until you are ready, it is almost certainly too late. People can procrastinate for a variety of different reasons, including being fearful that they might not be good at something, or it's not an enjoyable task. Maybe they perceive that it will take too long. Usually things take less time to do than predicted! It's often not the action that is the issue, it's starting. That's why at the beginning of every workout, Peloton instructor Jess Sims says that you've completed the hardest part...showing up. Imagine if you started what you've been putting off when you thought about starting it. It's about progress and not perfection. Mel Robbins says, "Start late. Start over. Start scared. Start again. Just start."

Resources:

https://jamesclear.com/procrastination

https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/the-long-term-consequences-of-narcissistic-abuse/

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/why-do-we-procrastinate-experts-explain-the-science

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It's a one on one chat with Ginny this week. And it's a good one! This week is all about diving into how we think about and talk to ourselves.

Do you engage in negative self-talk? Well, data shows that we have up to 60,000 thoughts per day and up 80% -- EIGHT PERCENT -- of those thoughts are negative.

Imagine the changes you can create when you start doing this one thing?! When you start speaking to and treating yourself with more kindness. Imagine the transformation you can cultivate for yourself. This is one thing that we have so much control over, but we have to be completely honest with ourselves in order to be able to make this shift and see the impact it can have on our lives.

It's time to start building yourself up and stop beating yourself up. Our thoughts create our feelings, our feelings shape our mood and our mood creates our reality. Woah!

Ginny is offering newsletter subscribers and podcast listeners first access to a new downloadable that can help you make this shift.

It's called The KindKey Mindshift Workbook and you can download it here. https://www.ginnypriem.com/products/p/o6tpaa4kkrbceecmb7usmq2oht549y

It's a 14-page workbook that provides context and data to support this concept as well as a quick quiz to provide you with a baseline. You'll also learn how to make this shift in an easy to follow step-by-step guide. There are monthly, weekly and other meaningful worksheets that you can print out as many times as you'd like so you can track your progress and see what you're proud of in changing your old thoughts into new thoughts.

She shares the 4 main types of negative self-talk according to Mayo Clinic -- catastrophizing, personalizing, filtering and polarizing -- with examples and how you can shift these to more positive thoughts in an easy to follow 3-step process.

We can't change the past or our previous thoughts, but we can cultivate the future ones starting right now. It's not just about downloading the workbook. You have to commit to doing the work and unlocking your secret power that you already have within you: The KindKey.

Positive self-talk and thoughts can help you improve longevity, decrease stress, improve overall well-being and much more, according to Mayo Clinic.

Think about your life and reality today. And then think about if tomorrow, next week, next month, next year -- do you want your life to be the same, worse or better. If you said better, the KindKey Mindshift Workbook will help you track your progress and how your thoughts, feelings and mood contribute to your overall wellbeing. Download it today and get started.

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Mayo Clinic article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950

Fast Company article: https://www.fastcompany.com/90645945/4-science-backed-ways-to-identify-and-stop-negative-self-talk

Dr. Elizabeth Scott article: https://www.verywellmind.com/negative-self-talk-and-how-it-affects-us-4161304

Mindset Mentor "Do The Thing" podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7aHh5JEjizNkVKYFgpszCN?si=FsjcqcAmTlCCJwfTAImlow

Have you ever wondered why someone is so sensitive? Or perhaps you've wondered if you're being sensitive or even overly sensitive. What if there was data that supported that there may be reasons behind feeling things more, both physically and emotionally, than the average person. Maybe you can sense someone else's feelings, or are deeply moved by music or the beauty of nature. Sensitive to crowds, loud sounds, itchy fabrics? These are just a few things that could be indicators of being an HSP. In the 1990s Dr. Elaine Aron pioneered research on the topic of what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP.) Dr. Elizabeth Scott provides her expertise on this topic and dives deep on what it means to be an HSP, how to cope with it, and sheds light on how being an HSP may be linked to being a child of a narcissist! You can take a quiz that is linked through Dr. Scott's Verywell Mind article that is linked below.

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Dr. Elizabeth Scott is an author, personal coach, and speaker, who has over two decades of experience educating and working with others on issues related to stress, emotional wellbeing, health, relationships, and overall life satisfaction. She is the author of 8 Keys to Stress Management and has published thousands of articles on stress and its effects, as well as relationship issues, happiness, gratitude, personality, and much more. She offers online courses, workshops, stress relief tools, coaching, and a free newsletter to help people build resilience, increase productivity, and create the meaningful lives they’ve always imagined. Elizabeth Scott has a Ph.D. in Psychology, an M.S. in Counseling focused marriage and family therapy, and a B.A. in Psychology from San Diego State University. She is a PCC-certified coach and author of 8 Keys to Stress Management. She has been featured in Verywell Mind, the American Institute of Stress, Business Insider, CNN, Glamour, and several other news outlets, and is releasing an app for stress relief and productivity in 2024.

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Have you ever wondered what the big deal is when someone is shattered from the end of a narcissistic relationship? Have you ever wondered why they're not just getting over it already? If you've been in a narcissistic relationship, you know how difficult to the road to recovery is. If you haven't been, Dr. Kastner is here to help give a better understanding. If you're tired of hearing the word narcissist, this is also for you! While this word is thrown around flippantly, this is why we have experts here to provide meaningful, valuable and credible perspective and insight.Dr. Alina Kastner is a world-renowned psychotherapist from Vienna, Austria and she is here to explain why this type of abuse is so misunderstood and shakes people to their core. She goes the extra mile for her patients and even shares a narcissist playlist with them to help them heal through music. Dr. Kastner describes how the trauma bond is so intense and cognitive dissonance -- what the heart wants and what the head wants and the distance in between.She gives a beautiful explanation of CPTSD, (chronic post traumatic stress disorder) which may be a new concept to many. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS) is a case that she made for this to be a part of diagnostic tools. This damage can cause victims to lose the ability to make and create boundaries, self-esteem, self trust and the ability to regulate emotions.Dr. Kastner also shares some things that might be helpful and not helpful to say or do to people healing from narcissist abuse. She describes the different masks that narcissists wear and take off. You might be surprised at who she describes narcissists target! It's not necessarily weak or naive people.Her perspective on people that have experienced bad things is that you have a choice to either hurt others or do something good from what they've been through, or choose PTG - post-traumatic growth.She shares how physical symptoms manifest in victims during these relationships and coping mechanisms for survival can be misdiagnosed and how narcissists can even trick therapists when they actually will go to couples therapy.You may also be interested to learn about equine therapy and how she uses it with her patients for healing and learning to trust yourself again.Losing yourself and trust in yourself can be a jarring part of the narcissist abuse cycle.She gives helpful tips around identifying and staying true to your constant. The definition of mirroring and the motivation behind it is explained.Dr. Kastner gives a few tips on how to spot a narcissist dating, as a friend, as a family member and at work. Love bombing, triangulation, disrespecting boundaries, control, no accountability or not apologizing, taking credit or belittling could all be indicators.Finally, for narcissist abuse victims -- we hear you, we see you. She provides helpful steps you can take towards healing and recovery.Resources:Dr. Kastner's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.alinakastner?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcBook an appt with Dr. Kastner: https://stan.store/Alinakastner Dr. Kastner's Website: https://www.alinakastner.com/Insight

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Dr. Melissa Madeson joins us to discuss loneliness. She shares with us the root causes, symptoms, and some key strategies people can implement to feel less lonely and potentially prevent loneliness as well.

She explains the difference between transient and chronic loneliness. There is also quite a bit of discussion around feeling your feelings, being able to name your emotions and how to shift them.

At one point, she says that "what you resist persists" and this made so much sense! She discusses the benefits of meditation, therapy, nature, hobbies and journaling to help lift your spirits. Much of what is discusses also stems around being comfortable with yourself, knowing yourself and ultimately loving yourself.

Another big moment is when she explains that emotions aren't mutually exclusive. You can experience joy, even in difficult times. You can be happy doing something, even if you're grieving.

This episode is chalk full of helpful information from an expert on how to kick loneliness in the butt!

More about Dr. Melissa Madeson:

Melissa Madeson is a licensed therapist in Flower Mound, Texas. She has a PhD in Sport Exercise from the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. She also has an MEd in Counseling & Human Development from Hardin Simmons University and a BA in Psychology and MS in Kinesiology & Sport Performance from California State University, Sacramento. Melissa is Gottman level 1 and level 2 certified.

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My Passion Is Helping People Deepen Their Most Meaningful Relationships. I pride myself on being compassionate, empathetic, and deeply caring. I am loyal, dedicated, hardworking, and driven.

I have experienced the highs and lows of life like so many. I have personally struggled with depression and anxiety and have also lost a younger brother to a drug overdose. At the same time, my life has had its fair share of joys—I married my best friend and soulmate and have experienced the life-giving power of relationships time and again. All of these experiences inform the work I do with clients. Today, I have my own full-time psychotherapy practice and work with individuals, couples, and families.

My Approach To The Healing Process: I take a holistic approach to mental health and relationship counseling. Sessions with me are so much more than just talk therapy—I use a bottom-up approach to help clients feel grounded and centered, get in touch with their body, and connect to themselves on a deeper level. As a certified yoga teacher, I prioritize incorporating the wisdom of the body into my work with clients. Since the mind and body are inherently connected, true healing means working with both of them simultaneously. In my work with couples, I primarily draw from an approach called the Gottman Method and also use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) No matter which approach works best for you, I am confident that I can help you improve your relationships with your loved ones and deepen your connection with yourself in the process.

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Sunrise Wellness & Counseling (clientsecure.me)

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Brené Brown book: https://a.co/d/8mtAnM9

Article Melissa referenced: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_artificial_intelligence_help_us_become_less_lonely?utm_source=Greater+Good+Science+Center&utm_campaign=d326e87698-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_GG_Newsletter_December_5_2023&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5ae73e326e-d326e87698-70749391

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This episode is full of fun, real talk about failure and some heartfelt & vulnerable moments that will make you respect & adore Dr. Buford.

In this episode, he opens up about sharing some of his biggest failures in business and how he used those failures to catapult his career and life forward. And even though he said he wouldn't, he was vulnerable enough to share how he felt like his divorce was a failure. But plot twist -- that experience helped develop him into being the kind of partner he is today to the love of his life.

Dr. Buford shares about what some of his most proud and biggest accomplishments are, and they're probably not what you think! Find out what he means by wanting to stop and smell the roses. He drops a plethora of inspiring quotes that have made a positive impact on him that you may want to jot down yourself!

No doubt, you'll leave this conversation determined, inspired and feeling like you were wrapped in a warm hug. It's got something for everyone! Love it? Share it! And drop a 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 review or rating on the platform you're listening on.

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Dr. Gregory A. Buford is a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon and nationally recognized MASTER Facial Injectables Trainer. In addition, he is the founder of Core Aesthetics Training Institute, a nationally recognized organization responsible for training medical professional in the safe and effective use of facial injectables as well as the founder of Core Aesthetics Consulting. Dr. Buford has been consistently recognized in the media for his Plastic Surgery expertise and has participated with resources including Vogue, E Online, ABC News, FOX News, EMedicine, and many others. He has been chosen as a Castle Connoly Top Doctor from 2017-2023 as well as a 2023 5280 Magazine Top Doc. Dr Buford is honored to participate as a consultant and Advisory Board Member for a number of companies within the Plastic Surgery/Aesthetic Medicine space and is proud to have help launch a number of products and procedures within this industry. Dr. Buford is the author of “Beauty and the Business”, “Eat, Drink, Heal: The Art and Science of Surgical Nutrition” and “The Boob Job Bible”. These books are currently available on Amazon and have received acclaim from both medical professionals as well as patients from around the world. Gregory A. Buford, M.D. received his medical degree from Georgetown University School and Medicine and completed residencies in both General Surgery as well as Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. He obtained additional training in Cosmetic Surgery through the esteemed Baker-Stuzin-Baker Fellowship as well as an Anti-Aging/Restorative Medicine Fellowship through A4M. He is also a proud graduate of the 2018 Physician CEO program at the Kellogg School of Management. Dr. Buford has maintained strong relationships with a number of his alma maters and in 2018 was chosen as the proud presenter of the UCSD Revelle College Commencement address and in 2022 was the keynote speaker at the UCSD Revelle College Honors Graduation where he gave the keynote address and was recognized as an Honorary Fellow of UCSD Revelle College.

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What's a POGO sister? Listen to the end to find out about the definition of a Pogo sister.

In this episode, Ginny and Kristen share about how they met, which is PRETTY juicy. The commonalities are endless and the story demonstrates just how small the world it.

Kristen shares her story of rising from the ashes, the ways in which she speaks about energy and how she grew through grief. She shockingly lost her husband when she was 31 years old and had a 10 month old baby.

If that sounds shocking, Kristen explains how recovering from narcissist abuse was more difficult than healing from become a 31-year-old widow with a baby.

This conversation is about connecting as evolved women supporting one another. There is chat about crystals, yoga, meditation and trusting your gut.

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Kristen Brown is The Energy Phoenix! She is a Certified Speaking Professional who redefines the energy of leadership in the modern workplace. Drawing from her transformative experiences as a young widow, combined with 15 years in corporate leadership, Kristen's keynotes have revolutionized workplace dynamics for giants like Microsoft, General Mills, and Target, small businesses across industries, associations, and everything in between. With a Master's in Integral Theory (the art and science of multiple perspectives) and a suite of wellness certifications, she presents a holistic blueprint for achieving unparalleled work/life synergy, resilience, and results.

Kristen's influence spans media from Forbes to "Live with Kelly" and as one of only 360 active Certified Speaking Professionals globally, Kristen promises an experience grounded in fun, expertise, and energy. With her, organizations don't just adapt; they rise.

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Resources on difficulty and tips on recovering from narcissist abuse:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-healing-from-the-discard

https://www.verywellhealth.com/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-challenges-and-treatment-5210945

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201606/why-recovering-the-narcissist-in-your-life-is-so-hard

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Dr. Tanya Holthus is back! She was a guest on Season 1 and her content and approach was so impactful, it was a top episode, so I wanted to invite her back to hear more from her.

This episode was requested by a listener and in it, Tanya shares with us the details of love bombing, why it is so effective, how narcissists use it and provides some really great examples of what love bombing is and what it isn't.

She also provides significant context around how this can happen not just in romantic relationships, but also in familial relationships, with colleagues and with friends.

She also breaks down DARVO for us. This is a manipulative tactic that narcissists use and falls under the umbrella of gaslighting. It's an acronym that stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim & Offender. It can leave the victim feeling confused and make them question reality.

Tanya also gets into some of the science of the wiring of the brain and why narcissists may throw what's referred to as "adult temper tantrums" and how/why they may even believe their own lies or deny behavior and actions they did indeed engage in or perform.

More about Dr. Tanya Holthus:

Tanya is a licensed psychologist and is here for you. She sees most everyone for most everything.

She enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy,

coaching, and supervision. She meets you wherever you are at and applies what will fit for you in the

moment.

She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-

traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and

relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships

involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. She also has a special

place in her heart for people suffering with fertility issues. She views things through a trauma lens

and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate

healthy boundaries, guides healing, and will help you gain clarity to bring peace in your life.

She uses an integrative approach of many modalities to fit the unique needs of each person. Some

of these modalities include parental coaching, Filial Play Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, Eye

Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Adaptive Internal Relations (AIR)

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People who have worked with her have described her as warm, compassionate, easy to talk to,

empathetic, and reliable. She loves her work as a psychologist. She will go to bat for you and will work

hard for you. She has been doing this a long time and is confident that she can help with any

presenting concern you may have.

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