Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

The goal isn't to be happy. The goal is to experience the full wheel of emotions. Just like our ecosystems thrive on biodiversity, our lives thrive with emotional diversity. 
How many of us run on stress? Or overwhelm or anger? Conversely, if we're sitting in comfort or ease for too long, we start to feel empty. The trick is to welcome them all. 

Join us in an exercise to identify the three emotions you'd like to feel more, and let's discover why it's crucial to be emotionally diverse. Plus, don't miss out on an opportunity to learn more with our upcoming free class on emotional agility. It's time to live a full, emotionally diverse life.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Have you ever considered how often you're simply reacting by default rather than on purpose? For most guys, it's close to 95% of the time. On this episode of The Durable Dad podcast, I, Tommy Geary, will guide you through the fascinating nature of our reactions, and how, with a little awareness and understanding of our thought cycle, we can learn to manage them effectively. 

Packed with insights from my business coach Dave and examples from my own clients' experiences, this episode unravels the process our brains go through when receiving information from the outside world. We all react instinctively - it's part of being human. However, certain situations call for more mindful responses. By understanding how our thoughts and emotions drive our actions, we're able to slow down and choose a more measured response to various scenarios. So, whether you're faced with a curious child's incessant questions or a heated conversation with your spouse, this podcast episode will equip you with the tools to navigate life's challenges more effectively. Tune in, as we take you one step closer to being a Durable Dad.

Resources mentioned:
002: Taking Action: A Powerful Tool to Add to Your Belt (Spotify)

002: Taking Action: A Powerful Tool to Add to Your Belt (Apple)

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Join us as we explore the core concepts of Stoicism and debunk the misconception that being stoic means lacking emotions. Instead, we'll delve into how Stoics connect with their feelings to respond in a measured way and examine Seneca's quote, "he who has control over himself has control over the world."

Learn how to accept and manage external factors by applying Stoic principles to regain control of your emotions and actions. Stop feeling overwhelmed and find the balance between what is within your control and what is not. This episode will guide you on how to live your best life by understanding the power of focusing on things you can control and how your energy impacts the entire situation you are in. Get ready to transform your mindset and gain control over your emotions, your actions, and ultimately your life.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Ever found yourself stuck in surface-level conversations, struggling to connect with your wife? In this powerful episode, we share a game-changing communication tool: the check-in process. This technique has transformed my relationships, particularly with my wife, as it helps to cut through small talk and dive into the heart of the matter. Through examples from our own experiences, such as resolving disagreements and navigating anxiety in social settings, discover the three-step process that involves naming three physical things, sensations, and emotions.

Not only is the check-in process beneficial for you and your wife, but it can also be applied to connections with friends, kids, and even yourself. We discuss overcoming the initial reluctance to initiate a check-in and the rewards that follow through open and honest communication. Learn how this technique works across different age groups, from young children to adults, and how it can elevate your everyday conversations to something more profound. Give the check-in process a try and witness the difference it can make in creating deeper connections with those around you, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Ready to transform your relationship with stress and become an even better dad? Today on The Durable Dad podcast, we reveal how our mindset can help us manage stress for the benefit of ourselves and our families. Stress can be a powerful tool that gives us focus, energy, and motivation when managed properly. Learn about the hormones released during stress and how our bodies respond in fight or flight mode.

We'll also discuss why changing our relationship with stress is crucial for improving our lives and connections with our loved ones. By taking control of stress, we can become better fathers and partners. Plus, we'll share some healthy coping mechanisms and ways to adjust our approach to stress in order to become more durable dads. Join us in this insightful conversation on managing stress and embracing the best version of ourselves for our families. And if you're finding value in the show, please leave a review and share your thoughts – we appreciate your support!

Resources mentioned:
Kelly McGonigal – How to make stress your friend

Dr. Alia Crum – Mindset Matters: How to Embrace the Benefits of Stress

Tim Ferris – Fear Setting

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Push comes to shove, we’d choose our kids every time over these little habits we fall into.

Most of us don't realize we're prioritizing them because they're easy to slip into.

Over time our kids start to turn to mom for everything, and we lose that mutual respect needed when it comes time to teach or discipline.

This week’s episode covers the top five things I see dads devote their time and attention to that could be eliminated.

Stay on till the end to understand what’s left when we get rid of one or two of these things, and why that space is so valuable.

The Family Board Meeting

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Top five reasons you want to get a physical challenge on the books. 

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Most of us carry around a thick playbook for the people in our lives – all the things we think they should and shouldn't be doing. And these playbooks (or expectations) can make us crazy. We focus on trying to control things that are out of our control. 

This episode will teach you how to: 
- recognize your own playbooks
- drop the ones that are dragging you down
- and manage the playbooks that you decide to keep

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

It can feel like the only way to get our kids to listen is to yell. But there's a better way. This episode will teach you how to enforce your needs without looking like a hothead. You'll end up with stronger relationships and more respect from your kids and colleagues.

Resources:
Good Inside

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Sounds soft. But mastering your emotions are the key to becoming a man. Your emotions are where all of your power lies. And most of us guys are completely disconnected from them. This episode will teach you exactly how to change that so you can be more level-headed and reliable. 

Resources:
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap