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E222: The AI Girlfriend: How to Protect Your Relationship from Artificial Intimacy


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Imagine this: your partner sits you down and says they want to open your marriage…

Not for a real-life person.

But for their AI companion.

Sounds like a Black Mirror episode, right? But it’s real.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wild, complicated, and very real intersection of AI and relationships.

From romantic connections with chatbots to emotional venting with AI companions, technology is evolving faster than most of us are prepared for. And it’s already showing up in our love lives in some unexpected (and sometimes unsettling) ways.

Whether you’re curious, skeptical, or straight-up concerned, this is a conversation every couple needs to have.


Here’s what we’re getting into:

  • The Reddit story that left us both speechless (yes, he wants a throuple with his AI girlfriend 😳)

  • Why saying “I don’t use AI” isn’t a real boundary anymore

  • The emotional intimacy trap: how AI companions are starting to meet very human needs

  • Why venting to AI can quietly erode real-life connection

  • The most important questions to ask your partner now about tech, boundaries, and connection

  • How to use AI intentionally to strengthen your relationship (not threaten it)

  • Real-life examples of how AI can either divide or deepen your bond

    🔗 Links + Resources

    How to Safeguard Your Relationship From AI

    We made you a free guide to help you have the talk about AI and your relationship.

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    • Vanessa AI: a relationship-focused tool that’s trained NOT to cross boundaries

    • Our entire library of core courses + guides on intimacy, sex, and relationships

    • Monthly coaching calls with us and two date night ideas every month (one cute, one spicy 😉)

      💛 Learn more at vmtherapy.com/deeper


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