We’ve always promised to keep things real with you — the good, the messy, and everything in between.

And lately… life has been life-ing.

In this episode, we’re opening up about what’s been going on behind the scenes — especially with Vanessa’s dad’s health — and how we’ve been navigating this season both personally and as a couple.

We’ll talk about what’s next for our family, the emotional rollercoaster of managing grief while still finding moments of joy, and what it looks like to prioritize self-care, connection, and even intimacy when life feels really heavy.

An honest update on Vanessa’s dad’s health and how our family is handling it

The self-care practices helping me stay grounded (and sometimes just get through the day)

What’s been helping us stay connected as a couple during stressful times

The reality of sex and intimacy when you’re grieving or emotionally exhausted

Why joy still matters, even when things are hard

If you’re in a tough season too, this one’s for you. You’re not alone. 💛

Inside Deeper, our membership for couples, we help you keep growing together — even when life gets complicated.

You’ll get access to expert-led guides, monthly live calls, and our favorite prompts and challenges to help you communicate, connect, and feel close again.

👉 Join Deeper today and start building the kind of relationship that can handle anything. https://vmtherapy.com/deeper

🎧 Stay connected

📸 Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander

💌 Get our weekly emails with behind-the-scenes stories, tips, and a few good laughs → http://vmtherapy.com/subscribe

🎧 Never miss an episode! Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices