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E246: How To Stay Connected When The World Feels Like It’s Burning


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Lately, we’ve been hearing from so many of you in our DMs. People are telling us they feel guilty wanting pleasure. Ashamed for craving closeness.

Disconnected from their bodies and their partners because the world feels overwhelming, violent, and unstable.

Others have told us they know their relationship matters, but caring about their sex life feels hard when so much is happening globally.

Many of you feel less present, less motivated, and more anxious, and it’s showing up directly in your connection.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about what to do when the weight of the world makes intimacy feel impossible.

This conversation is not about ignoring reality.

It’s about learning how to stay grounded, emotionally available, and connected so you can actually show up for your life, your values, and your relationship.


💛 In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • How constant exposure to distressing news and social media keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode.

  • Why stress and anxiety don’t just affect your mood, but directly impact desire, arousal, and presence.

  • The moral pressure many people feel to put their relationship on pause during hard times.

  • Holding awareness of the world while still caring for your relationship.

  • How physical connection helps regulate your nervous system and bring you back into your body.

  • Simple ways to shift from overwhelm to meaningful, local connection and action.

  • Practical rituals for staying connected when everything feels heavy.

  • Why staying close to your partner can actually make you more effective and resilient.

    If you’ve been wondering how to care about your relationship when things feel dark or hopeless, this episode is for you.


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