The response to our first episode on penis performance problems was so big that we knew we had to come back for round two.

In this episode, we're getting into the practical stuff: what to do in the moment when things aren't going as planned, how to keep your sex life feeling connected and fun even when performance issues are in the mix, and how both partners can show up for each other without making everything weird.

💛 In this episode, you'll hear:

Whether you need to tell your wife you're taking ED meds

How to get out of your head before sex when PE anxiety is already spiraling

Practical tricks for lasting longer — specific, usable techniques that actually help

How to bring spontaneity back when Viagra has a 30-minute waiting period — because yes, this is fixable

How to bring up a performance issue with a partner who doesn't seem to notice it — the conversation you've been avoiding, made easier

What to do when he loses his erection mid-sex

When it's time to bring in a doctor — because sometimes the answer really is medical

If you or your partner have ever felt alone in navigating this stuff, this episode is proof that you're not.

We've put together a guide that goes even deeper into everything we talked about today. The Modern Man's Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure is a step-by-step resource built from Vanessa's years of sex therapy practice — real tools, real techniques, zero fluff.

Strategies for erectile difficulties, early ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation

Exercises you can use on your own and in the moment with a partner

A whole chapter for partners — because this is a team sport

Practical and shame-free from start to finish

👉🏻 Check out The Modern Man's Guide here: vmtherapy.com/modernman

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