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Emotional Intelligence: Why the FBI Trains for Empathy, and You Should Too w/ Steven Stein


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People avoid you for reasons that have nothing to do with your deodorant.

You can be smart, talented, even funny—but if people feel unseen or misunderstood around you, your life gets smaller.

Dr. Steven Stein has tested emotional intelligence in everyone from Air Force recruiters to reality TV contestants. And the results are weirdly human.

EQ isn’t about being soft. It’s about knowing when to shut up, when to speak up, and when to walk away.

This episode breaks down emotional intelligence like it’s a muscle group: you’ve got to work it, stress it, and recover from it. Steven explains the science, shares unexpected stories (like lighthouse keepers and narcissists), and makes EQ feel practical


We explore:

🔹 Spot the everyday signs you're low on EQ (and how to fix them)

🔹 Build empathy without becoming a pushover
🔹 Train your emotional intelligence like going to the gym

🔹 The biggest traits of success in the FBI, air force, army and navy

🔹 The psychology of reality TV


Come away with the practical side of emotional intelligence in real life - not just in theory




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        Steven Stein

        Bestselling author and psychologist who has worked with leading corporates, defense agencies and some of the biggest reality TV shows.

        ⁠Steven J. Stein⁠

        Books:

        • ⁠EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and your success⁠
        • ⁠Emotional Intelligence for Dummies⁠
        • ⁠Hardiness: Making stress work for you to achieve your goals

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          Episode: Emotional Intelligence: Why the FBI Trains for Empathy, and You Should Too w/ Steven Stein


          Chapters:

          00:00 Emotional Intelligence - Steven Stein Intro

          02:18 Everyday signs of emotional intelligence

          05:40 Improving Emotional Intelligence

          08:02 Emotional Intelligence in Different Professions

          11:30 Coaching for Emotional Intelligence at Work

          14:20 The US Air Force Emotional Intelligence Study

          17:00 Empathy Training Course

          18:39 Emotional Intelligence and Neurodiversity

          23:22 Trainable Aspects of Emotional Intelligence

          24:40 Building Empathy by Using Drugs

          27:11 Personal Growth in Emotional Intelligence

          30:41 Reality TV and Emotional Intelligence

          34:54 Cross-Cultural Differences in EQ

          38:20 General Likability vs. Emotional Intelligence

          40:42 Tips to Build Assertiveness

          43:40 Relationship between IQ and EQ

          49:59 Outro

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