Marriage and family therapist Shadeen Francis joins us to talk about X-Men, therapy, vulnerability and emptying the jug. She helps us to explore the following questions:

How can the “emptying the jug” approach lead to more fulfilling relationships?

How can we even begin to open up and let our guard down?

What language can we use if we’re new to opening up and letting others in?

How can empathy transform experiences?

How is self-esteem tied to vulnerability?

What does it mean to be vulnerable — the good and the bad?

How can distraction be useful when dealing with difficult experiences?

How can we improve communication around challenging topics?

How can we open up and be more open to being emotionally impacted?

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Empathy Is A Superpower: How to Cultivate Trust, Have More Fulfilling Relationships & Work Through Trauma

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr Jess podcast I'm your co host, Brandon wear here with my lovely partner Dr Jess Hey. Hey, now before we get started, I want to show our sponsor. Let's get checked. Use Code, Dr Justice Save on at home. STI testing hormone testing, other health tests go to let's get checked. Dot Com, and please enter code Dr. Justice Save and let them know that you learned about them here. Now today we are joined by Shea Dean Francis, marriage and family therapists with a specialty in sex therapy and social justice sheer to talk about her work, and how you can learned open up and be more vulnerable, and how this can improve your relationships and change your life welcomed. Thanks so much for being here. Thank you so much for having me now. You Are Toronto. Born like me. You are a transplant and you're. You're in Philly now. So what brought you into the field of sex therapy So the short version of the story was that my original plan was to join the X men, and it. It felt like a reasonable extension. To then get really into the world of sex kind of my. My link was through Sue Johannesen Henson talk, sex with sue and I. Came across her work at a time when I was really realizing that there weren't open dialogue, there weren't places where people could go to have. These conversations and someone had called in to her show I was. This is probably the summer for seventh grade and as a pragmatic and realizing like shit, I might be enormity so my powers were not manifesting and I'm thinking payable. Let me have something working on in the meantime while I wait for my obvious mutant. to become apparent to everyone else. and someone called into her show and said thank you so much for your work. You saved my life. So my great I'll just do that like what whatever whatever it is. She's doing obviously is important. She was like waving around with a big purple, like but plug and I'm like okay well, whatever that is helps people so I should probably do that, so the X. men didn't call not yet, I'm I'm still hopeful and so you know if you're out there. Professor Clavier I'm ready. Superpower shown. Come forward,