Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too. Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened?

In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically.

Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Watch on YouTube

www.DrMorganCutlip.com

If you're listening on our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder

Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv

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When your personality seems to straddle multiple Enneagram types, it can feel confusing or even invalidating. In this illuminating episode, we explore what it means when you identify strongly with two or more Enneagram patterns, referencing insights from Dr. Dan Siegel's previous conversation on the show. Discover why this "multi-type resonance" isn't a flaw in the system but potentially a more nuanced understanding of your personality structure. Learn practical approaches to growth when you're navigating multiple type patterns, how to discern which pattern might be tripping you up in specific situations, and how the Enneagram's Law of Three and Law of Seven provide a framework for understanding these complex dynamics. Whether you're a coach working with clients who don't fit neatly into one type or someone personally struggling to find your type home, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward for your Enneagram journey. Watch on YouTube Here!

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Is a clean house a spiritual obligation? In this liberating conversation, Dana K. White, author of the brand new book, "Jesus Doesn't Care About Your Messy House," challenges the shame and spiritual baggage many attach to home management. This book is for you, if no matter how competent you feel in other parts of your life, you still feel overwhelmed and defeated by your messy home. While it’s true that keeping a clean and organized living space can contribute to a sense of peace and well-being, it should never be equated with your worth, moral standing, or what Jesus thinks about you.With her characteristic honesty and practical wisdom, Dana reveals how our homes often become measuring sticks for our spiritual worth—and why this connection is both damaging and unbiblical. Drawing on her own journey from drowning in clutter to finding sustainable systems, Dana shares insights particularly helpful for those with creative personalities who may get scattered as well as analytical, information-gathering tendencies similar to Enneagram Type 5 traits. Discover why "how you're made" is different from "just the way you are," how to create systems that work with your natural tendencies rather than against them, and why "technically helping" differs from "actually helping" your household. This conversation offers both practical home management strategies and spiritual freedom for anyone who has ever felt judged—by others or themselves—for the state of their home.

Find Dana's book here: https://a.co/d/auuIYEI

Find Dana on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aslobcomesclean

Find Dana's website here: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/

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How does your Enneagram type influence your experience of anxiety? In this insightful episode, we explore the unique ways each type encounters, processes, and responds to fear. Discover why Head types (5,6,7) intellectualize anxiety, Heart types (2,3,4) emotionalize it, and Body types (8,9,1) somaticize it—creating entirely different anxiety experiences. Learn how your type's core fears amplify specific anxieties and the unconscious strategies you've developed to manage them. Through compassionate exploration and practical tools, this episode offers a personalized approach to understanding your relationship with anxiety. Whether you're seeking to support a partner through anxious moments or develop greater self-awareness, these type-specific insights provide a roadmap for transforming your relationship with fear. With concrete practices for each type, this episode empowers you to recognize anxiety's early signals and respond with presence rather than reactivity.

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In this compelling conversation, bestselling author Ian Cron discusses his new book "The Fix," revealing how addiction in its many forms affects us all. Ian moves beyond stereotypical views of addiction to show how everyone struggles with attachments that promise fulfillment but ultimately leave us empty. With wisdom and compassion, he explains how isolation fuels our addictive cycles, while genuine community creates the environment for healing. Ian shares practical wisdom about how the steps of recovery offer a universal path toward grace and growth, regardless of what form our struggles take. This conversation offers hope for anyone feeling stuck in patterns they can't seem to break, illuminating how vulnerability and connection provide the foundation for lasting transformation. Watch the full interview on YouTube

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Ian's website: www.IanMorganCron.com

Typology podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/typology/id1254061093

Typology Enneagram assessment: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment

"The Fix" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/e2nWVsv

Visit Ian and Typology on Instagram

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In this transformative and quick episode, we walk together through several powerful practices to develop genuine internal validation. If you constantly seek others' approval or question your decisions, this episode is for you! Learn practical techniques to strengthen your self-trust and break the cycle of external validation right here. YouTube the episode here!

Here we explore:

Deliberate Self-Acknowledgment Practice

Lived Evidence Documentation

Faith-Based Self-Compassion

Strategic Disengagement

And more! This episode offers concrete tools to help you recognize and honor your inherent value—regardless of external opinions. Perfect for spouses, anxiously attached individuals, parents of unruly kids, people-pleasers, and anyone ready to build unshakable confidence from within.

Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for even more tools to help you along the way!

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In this captivating episode, we're joined by Jim Zartman (Type 8) and Joel Hubbard (Type 7), creators of the groundbreaking Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers framework and book. This innovative lens reveals our survival instincts as well as helps us adapt in them, speaking of how our core drives shape everything from our leadership styles to our marriages. Discover whether you're primarily a Hunter (similar to Sexual/SX instinct, focused on intensity and risk-taking), a Farmer (aligned with Self-Preservation/SP, oriented toward resources and sustainability), or a Teamer (comparable to Social/SO, driven by connection and collaboration), and how to work with your strengths and blindspots, whatever the stackingg order of your instincts. Through illuminating stories and practical insights, Jim and Joel explain how recognizing these patterns can transform relationships, reduce burnout, and resolve persistent conflicts. Learn how instinct-diverse partnerships can leverage complementary strengths while navigating inherent tensions. Whether you're struggling with communication breakdowns or seeking to understand your own reaction patterns, this revolutionary framework we share on today's episode offers a compassionate path toward greater self-awareness and connection. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I1vvmZVVRMQ

Get the book Hunters, Farmers, and Teamers here: https://a.co/d/5tZcJDA

Find their website here: https://www.theartofgrowth.org/

Find their Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/artofgrowth/?hl=en

Find the Art of Growth podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-of-growth/id1404087288

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Many couples avoid "relationship check-ins" because they feel awkward or turn into criticism sessions. This episode offers a completely different approach - a structured 30-minute blueprint that creates safety, deepens understanding, and builds practical solutions together that Christa shares both here and in this mini-episode.

You'll learn:

Whether you've been together for decades or just starting out, this monthly blueprint provides a sustainable way to stay connected amidst busy lives. Download the accompanying PDF guide from Christa's website to make implementation easy.

Listen now! Give just 30 minutes a month to intentional connection, and watch your relationship transform!

Get the 30 Min Monthly Relationship Blueprint meeting here! >> https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-monthly-blueprint-meeting. <<

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What happens when we make our partners the center of our emotional universe? In this insightful episode with Christa walking us through the concept of decentralization, we explore the delicate art of "decentralizing" your partner—a powerful practice that counterintuitively strengthens intimate connections. Through the lens of marriage theory, including but not limited to the Enneagram, we discover how constant emotional monitoring can suffocate even the most loving relationships. Learn to recognize signs you've over-centralized your partner, understand how your Enneagram type influences this tendency, and best of all, walk through a practical anxiety exercise with Christa to help you create healthy space while maintaining deep connection. Whether you're feeling anxious about your partner's every mood shift or struggling with boundary issues, this episode offers compassionate guidance for finding that sweet spot where both individuals can thrive within the relationship.

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What happens when we open our hearts and homes to others? Craig and Laura Cooper join us to share their extraordinary journey of faith and generosity that inspired MercyMe's song and Walker Hayes' music video "Craig." The Coopers discuss how their Type 3w4 and Type 9 Enneagram dynamics shape their approach to hospitality, and how a simple act of giving a minivan to a family in need sparked a profound spiritual transformation. Learn how small acts of generosity can create ripple effects of change, and discover practical ways to cultivate a spirit of giving in your own relationships and community right here! Watch on YouTube

Find the song with Walker Hayes/MercyMe written about Craig and Laura on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pLNTewIfrg and Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1S9Yxo8bniCYywEMCposAl

Find Craig's book here with Mercy Me/Walker Hayes: https://www.amazon.com/Glad-Youre-Here-Unlikely-Breaking/dp/0802424716

Find Craig's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/craigallencooper/?hl=en

Join the special free women's event beginning today at the Wholehearted Abundance Summit where Christa will be speaking this week here

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Craig Allen Cooper is a USA Today bestselling author and keynote speaker. He co-wrote the book "Glad You're Here" with Grammy-nominated country singer and songwriter, Walker Hayes. "Glad You're Here" instantly became a Publisher's Weekly, ECPA, and USA Today national bestseller and has been featured on The Today Show, People Magazine, The 700 Club, Jesus Calling, and Family Life Radio, as well as various other news sources, radio and television programs and podcasts, including That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs and Dream Big with Bob Goff. 

Craig served as one of the founding pastors of Redeeming Grace Church in Franklin, Tennessee and is the founder of Glad You’re Here Ministries. He is the subject of the song "Craig" by Walker Hayes, and he resides in the greater Nashville area with his lovely wife, Laura, and their four kids. You can follow Craig on Instagram @craigallencooper and for more information or for speaking inquiries, please visit www.craigallencooper.com/speaking.

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