Enneagram and Marriage

Often we wonder what we've carried forth from childhood in our Enneagram and relationship work, as well as wonder what we may have incidentally left behind in our quest for pleasing our family of origin. Today on this special episode with marriage and family therapist (and likely one of your fave Instagram therapy accounts) Michael Shahan, we take a tour around the Enneagram to walk through the Enneagram inner child theory derived from Sandra Maitri and others, also called the Soul Child theory. We do this to make sure you're running on all healthy cylinders as much as possible with your relationship growth, and we talk through ways you can do this work with your spouse or partner, too. No matter your type, join us for this deep dive into growth for every personality!   Watch on YouTube!   Michael's website   Michael's poyvagal courses    Michael's heart-mind-body Costa Rica trip   Follow Michael's Instagram here!   Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

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Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as we tell new stories and find new ways to make that deeper meaning together. She gives us a formula that has a natural yet practical flow so we can bring ourselves to each date or activity ready for reconnection. Enjoy this rich conversation with Tracy as we walk towards delighting, discovering, sharing our depths, and connecting more closely than ever before.

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You may often deal with expectations (and sexpectations) for the roles you hope the other spouse will play in your sexual journey together. Many times, these expectations don't get discussed and spouses are left hurt and distant on the interior. These brief but vital questions will bring you on a deeper level of intimacy than ever before, so take them one at a time as we draw you closer together than ever before right here! Grab our Love Maps freebie to increase general intimacy also!

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This must-listen episode is for both men and women since couples who track and hack their unique monthly female cycle together tend to strategically understand one another better across the board. This allows for work, family, and relationship dynamics to thrive in a healthier system than ever before, and this issue is so big in fact, that about 90% of couples experience these shifts in their relationships across the month. Today, Christa deep dives with us in a practical and also fun conversation (we promise!) with Enneagram coach, and female cycle expert, Evie Jenner, Type 1sx (1-5 Marriage Pairing) of @thetypeguide. You definitely don't want to miss the best ways to make the most of the shifting seasons across each month together with us right here! We talk about which times of the month are best for rest, for work, for creating, for sexual intimacy, and SO much more together right here! Get Evie's freebie right here: https://www.thetypeguide.co.uk/ and follow her at @thetypeguide on Instagram, Tiktok, and Thrive!

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There are five absolutely key components for a healthier and happier sex life and culture in your marriage and in this quick episode, Christa walks you through ALL of them. Tune in for these practical tips you can incorporate immediately as you create a healthier vibe together all summer (and year!) long. Don't miss the opportunity to both identify the greatest stumbling blocks to intimacy and the best and most tangible steps forward.

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Many times we bring trauma into marriage unwittingly and our spouse has to work very hard to work with us and our sensitive idiosyncrasies. Today we welcome Enneagram Coach and trauma practitioner, Jennifer Hurst of Everyday Enneagram to walk us through compassionate inquiry in our own healing versus relying on our spouses to be all things to us, a term coined by the world-renowned trauma/addictions MD, Dr. Gabor Maté, whose program Jennifer has trained in. Join us as we walk through both general tips to safety together as well as dig deep, type by type with open hearts. You can find Jennifer @everyday-enneagram on Instagram for coaching services and encouragement, too!

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What can you do when your marriage is in crisis… now? This episode is geared toward every person or couple who’s ever had a really bad day or moment in marriage or other relationships and just needs some support to help them out of a difficult spot. In this episode, Christa takes you around the Enneagram with lots of tips, bringing you warmth, soothing, and most of all, an array of clarified, simple strategies to help you find your healthy self — and your relationship again. In this episode, Christa brings your warmth, soothing, and most of all, practical tips you can take with you now to help you find your healthy self — and your relationship again.

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Often we can make the mistake of completely defining others with unilateral Enneagram stereotypes, further expanding our differences, leaving us not only in the box of our type, but in the shadows of relationships. In this new episode just for you, author and expert Stephanie Spencer invites us into a more adventurous yet intimate journey through our styles of interaction using the broader lens of nature metaphors by type (Did you know, for instance, 4s can be like an iceberg at times as well as an octopus?) Join us as we sit with beautiful photographic concepts for each of us as we venture through the wild together through more connecting lenses of communication for life and marriage. Stephanie also invites us to read her beautiful brand-new hardcover book, Out of the Box and Into the Wild, displaying her and her husband's awesome National Park Adventure pictures, metaphors for each type and triad, and more!

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Adventures vary across couples and across types. But we can all agree on one thing - they're essential to a healthy marriage. Today Christa takes you on a quick but important journey across the stances in the various ways each of us brings the best and the worst into our marriage adventures. Listen in for clues for bringing the very best adventuring this season!

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When you're in an opposites-attract marriage, you've got to be creative to make sure you're moving together in harmony. Today we get to talk to Dove-award winning artist Paul Cardall, whose lilting songs have been downloaded billions of times and graced the stage and airwaves for two decades, even through a heart transplant, about this very thing. Paul is an Enneagram 4 (with high 3 and 8 traits) and his wife Tina has strong 1 and 5 traits. Together they bring expansiveness and a very powerful outreach of love to the world. Today we get to take creative tips from him as he shares a window into the ways they've done that, and the many adventures they've shared along the way.

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Paul's new song, The Shores of Normandy

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