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Ep 045: It’s Time to Start Congratulating Yourself


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Healing and growth take time, and it all starts with being kind to yourself. A lot of us grew up with the idea of "tough love"—thinking that beating ourselves up would lead to success. But that’s not the case. You can’t shame yourself into happiness or worthiness. True healing comes from love, not from harsh criticism.

Take small steps, and be patient with yourself. Every moment of self-care, every kind thought you have about yourself, is progress. When you make peace with where you are right now, that’s when real transformation starts. Remember, you don’t need to be hard on yourself to be strong—you’re already strong by simply being yourself.

Success should feel good, not overwhelming. Your nervous system should stay intact, and you should enjoy the journey, not beat yourself up for every imperfection.  

It’s all about changing the way you see yourself and learning to celebrate your own wins. It may take time, but keep practicing. Every time you appreciate yourself, you're strengthening your self-worth, and you’ll see positive changes in both your inner and outer world. Keep going, be gentle with yourself, and remember—you are already enough.

In this episode, I’m excited to share the importance of celebrating yourself on the healing journey. As we kick off the "Jumpstarting Your Healing" series for 2025, I encourage you to embrace self-love and honor your growth. Tune in as I discuss the power of self-recognition, building self-worth, and how healing the mother wound starts with appreciating and congratulating yourself. It’s time to create a new narrative where you lead the applause for your journey.

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:12) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:02:11) You Can't Heal While Beating Yourself Up
(00:05:05) Success Is Being Proud of Yourself
(00:07:59) Autonomy requires recognition
(00:11:20) Appreciate yourself
(00:15:42) Celebrate one thing about yourself each day
(00:17:59) Track your wins to build confidence
(00:21:25) Start breaking cycles
(00:23:31) Practice self-kindness
(00:25:06) Stop letting others define your worth
(00:27:14) Make a list of 30 things you love about you

Key Takeaways: 

"The most powerful thing you can do in your life is to have an appreciation practice."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue,

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