We all set goals for our children as to what success should look like for them. As a parent, having control seems like the simplest path to that goal. However, we know this does not lend well to your child ultimately having independence and agency. So, how do we navigate this?Listen to this inspiring Parenting With Impact episode with Elaine and Diane as they discuss control and how to transition from director to supporter and allowing your child to thrive in their own power. Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Got complex kids? Yeah, so do we. Parenting a complex kid can be frustrating, overwhelming, and isolating. It can also be incredibly rewarding -- with the right help and guidance! This FREE insider's guide  from the experts at ImpactParents includes our top 12 tips to help you create a calm, peaceful home and guide your kids to become more independent every day. Here is what to expect on this week’s show:A rigid definition of success for our kids sets them up for failure- there are many definitions and many paths to get there, and your definition will evolve as your child grows.Reflecting upon why you are holding on so tightly to your idea of the path and the end point of success for your child.Transferring ownership from you to your child to get to the outcome you can both agree on.Related EpisodesEp 11 Can You REALLY Control Your Kids with Gretchen Wegner  Ep 68 The Independence Pyramid: Big Picture and Daily Tasks with Elaine & DianeEp 80 4 Phases of Parenting: How to Support Without Enabling with Elaine & DianeEp 103 Success! Building Strong Relationships at Home and Work with Danielle JunkerEp 104 Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation & Self Management with Elaine & Diane  Links: Control by Janet Jackson Three Steps to Learn From Mistakes Without Shame How to Help Your Kids Ask for the Help They Need  Study on Resiliency The Pygmalion Effect    Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools Connect with Impact Parents:www.impactparents.comInstagram: @impactparentsFacebook: @impactparentLinkedIn:@impactparentsTwitter: @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices