Married After Kids

Ep. 194: What To Do When Your Spouse Gives You Attitude About the Mental Load


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Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you’ve tried having these conversations but still aren’t getting what you need.

 

Tune in to discover:

  • Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating
  • Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I’m just a bad husband”
  • The importance of understanding your spouse’s intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions
  • How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don’t go well
  • Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)

 

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn’t “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It’s not about proving who’s right or wrong—it’s about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.

 

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