In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason welcome Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, who explains inner child work as understanding sexual temptation and intolerable emotional pain as implicit “body memory” rather than mature adult desire. Drew shares how recognizing his own sexual imprinting and connecting it to childhood trauma replaced self-hatred with self-compassion and inviting Jesus into wounded places. Using the cave rescue documentary as an analogy, he outlines a process of locating, loving, and leading multiple “inner boys,” emphasizing connection over control, co-regulation, curiosity-based questions, and identifying attachment needs beneath cravings, framing porn as a pacifier and a protest while encouraging courageous, hope-filled “redemptive risks.”

Connect with Drew Boa:
https://www.husbandmaterial.com/
https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn 

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Timestamps:

00:00 Recovery Check In
03:23 Meet Drew Boa
06:01 What Is the Inner Child
09:10 Drew Story And Imprinting
12:33 Rescue The Boy Within
17:20 When Pain Triggers Relapse
21:14 Befriending Questions
23:55 Porn As Pacifier and a Protest
28:25 Face, Feel and Co Regulate
32:49 Hope And Redemptive Risk
34:32 Where To Find Drew
36:37 Wrap Up And Subscribe