In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, Sam and Mason discuss sexual addiction recovery with their shared therapist, Jason Dausses of Accepted Therapy. Sam opens up about longstanding self-judgment rooted in verbally abusive coaches and bosses, and Jason frames healing as both rescuing past wounds and then empowering oneself to live from “zero to ten” through real-time choices, community, and effective communication of needs. They explore why “95% honesty” still leaves a hidden 5% that fuels shame, how to ask others for specific support to create safety, and how boundaries relate to unmet needs and validation-seeking. Jason emphasizes grieving lost time, widening one’s window of tolerance for discomfort, accepting God’s unchanging acceptance even during acting out, and using mindfulness and inner-monologue journaling/parts work to observe thoughts non-judgmentally and reduce shame.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Raw Check In
01:15 Shame Spiral Confession
02:08 Inner Critic Origins
03:07 Meet The Therapist
05:36 Rescue Then Empower
07:42 The Hidden Five Percent
12:55 Asking For What You Need
15:07 Safety And Self Rescue
16:25 Boundaries Or Validation
18:35 Grief Stage In Recovery
20:46 Grieving Unmet Progress
21:59 Widening Tolerance Window
23:03 God Accepts You Always
24:43 Reintegrating Prayer Life
28:01 Mindfulness After Acting Out
29:47 Inner Monologue Journaling
31:11 Applying Skills Beyond Sex
35:03 No Silver Bullet Recovery
39:03 Living in the Gray
40:33 Wrap Up and Next Steps