Married After Kids

Ep. 230: Main Barriers to Having Productive Conversations About the Mental Load


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If you’ve ever tried to talk to your spouse about the mental load and ended up feeling more frustrated than before, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. So many couples want to share the load more fairly, but there are hidden barriers that make these conversations stall out or spiral into conflict.


In this episode, I’m breaking down the main reasons why dads often don’t step in, why moms end up carrying it all by default, and what keeps these conversations from moving forward. More importantly, I’ll walk you through how to recognize the specific barriers in your relationship so you can finally shift the dynamic and feel like a team again.


Tune in to discover:


• Why men often don’t recognize the mental load in the first place

• How default “factory settings” after kids leave moms carrying more than their share

• Why asking for help still leaves you holding the invisible weight

• The role of defensiveness in shutting conversations down

• What to focus on instead so you can break the cycle and build more equity at home


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