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Marriage was never meant to feel like co-managing a household.

Yet for so many couples, that’s exactly where they find themselves—the roommate phase. You’re dividing chores, trading off bedtime routines, updating each other on logistics… but emotional intimacy, laughter, and closeness are nowhere to be found.

In this episode, I share:

• What the roommate phase is and why so many couples end up here after kids
• What creates this disconnection
• Three clear signs you’re in the roommate phase (and what that means for your relationship)
• Why this phase won’t fix itself once kids get older—and what to do instead
• Small, practical ways to rebuild connection without overhauling your entire schedule

The good news? This phase doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means you’ve slipped into survival mode. And with awareness, small intentional steps, and consistency—you can shift from living like roommates to truly being partners again.

Resources & Next Steps:

• Grab my free Conflict to Connection Guide to process your thoughts and feelings before bringing them up to your spouse
• Ready for a complete reset in your marriage? Book a free Clarity Call with me here!

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
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