Mike and Tami

Do you ever feel like your marriage is a business partnership?  This is how Mike and Tami describe their marriage for many years, just business.  Tami was focused on being a mom.  She was content in the role of motherhood which was all she ever wanted.  Mike was struggling with shame in his addiction.  They were running the family business but not truly connecting with each other. 

This story is very special to co-host James as Mike is James' childhood friend. James has been along Mike’s side through his whole journey.  There were times they were just hanging out as bros, both quietly struggling. Later they opened up about their struggles and have supported each other.  

Mike spent many years struggling with the cycle of trying to stop his pornography addiction.  He describes seeking validation from Tami sexually.  He held onto a lot of bitterness and felt justified in his addiction.  

For Mike, stepping away from the shame of his addiction helped him find sobriety.  This however, did not fix the disconnection in his marriage.  Mike and Tami share the difficult moments in their marriage when they question if they loved each other and if their marriage would really make it.  

Now they are continually learning to connect and find true emotional intimacy in their relationship.  Mike learned that God never turned his back on him. He is waiting for all of us with open arms. 

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