Welcome to episode 157 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Xanet Pailet to the podcast. In this episode Xanet speaks to me about she overcame a sexless marriage, looking at the barriers of sexual shame and taking the power back over arousal.  

Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades.  After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.   

  

Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure.  Xanet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.  

  

Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute. 

 

In This Episode You Will Hear:  

 

• How Xanet pursued overcame a sexless marriage  
• The tremendous amount of shame that surrounds sex 
• The way in which couples lose intimacy when they stop having sex  
• How many people don’t see themselves as sexual beings  
• The negative messages women receive throughout life about sex  
• Overcoming the barriers of sexual shame  
• How women are programmed to say no to sex  
• Taking a look at the Madonna–whore dilemma  
• How women get sexualised in a negative way  
• Looking at the issue of verbal harassment  
• Dealing with the issue of slut shaming  
• Learning to take the power back over your own arousal  

   

 

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