Welcome to Episode 463 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by, Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator, Dr. Mindy DeSeta, who speaks to me about flirting, sexting, and the art of digital consent in modern dating.

In this conversation, we discuss how to move from casual conversations to more intimate ones, without it feeling awkward or forced. Dr. DeSeta shares how flirting and sexting are forms of vulnerable communication, not just sexual expression, and why pacing, consent, and emotional awareness are vital. We also touch upon the nuances of reading digital signals, how to avoid common mistakes like jumping ahead too soon, and what healthy, sexy communication looks like in both text and real life. 

Dr. Mindy DeSeta has a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology and is a Board Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has been in private practice since 2017 when she founded her concierge and bespoke mental health practice, Insight Counseling Center Miami. From 2025, Dr. DeSeta works with Hily Dating App as sexologist and sexuality educator consulting on product development, research and communication with the users.

In this episode, you will hear:

·      The Art Of Transitioning From Flirting To Sexting

·      How To Gauge Interest And Enthusiasm Digitally

·      Why The Lost “Courting Process” Still Matters

·      Recognizing Red Flags During Text Conversations

·      Handling Awkward Gray Zones In Online Dating

·      The Psychology Behind Unsolicited Explicit Photos

·      Understanding Digital Consent And Its Importance

·      Introducing Hily’s “Consent Guard” Feature

·      How Asking For Consent Can Be Sexy And Empowering

·      Tips To Create More Authentic And Respectful Connections

Thank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally.

 

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