No One Told Us

Episode 101:  Why Good Enough Parenting Is Enough with Eli Harwood


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We're BACK for Season 2! In this kick-off episode, Rachael sits down with therapist, author, and attachment expert Eli Harwood (aka Attachment Nerd) to separate fact from fiction when it comes to attachment.


If you've ever worried that one parenting decision could ruin your child's attachment, wondered if sleep training permanently damages connection, or felt pressure to parent perfectly, this conversation is for you.


Eli shares what secure attachment actually looks like, why repair matters more than perfection, and how parents can break generational patterns without carrying shame for their own mistakes. This episode is equal parts reassuring, validating, and empowering and will leave you feeling a little lighter about the job you're doing.


Inside this episode:

  • What secure attachment really means (hint: it's not attachment parenting)
  • The biggest myths parents believe about attachment
  • Why "good enough" parenting is actually the goal
  • The barriers that make connection feel harder in modern parenthood
  • The truth about attachment and sleep
  • How to repair after parenting mistakes and difficult moments
  • Why boundaries and secure attachment go hand in hand
  • Navigating parenting differences with your partner
  • How self-awareness, forgiveness, and self-compassion shape the parent-child relationship
  • Why your child doesn't need a perfect parent…they need YOU!
  • & so much more!
  • Mentioned in this episode:

    • Eli's website: attachmentnerd.com

    • Instagram: @attachmentnerd

    • Book: How to Deal With Your Sht So Your Kids Don't Have To*

      If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️


      ✨For sleep support and resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨


      Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.


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