When our big-feeling kids have big moods and attitudes -- behavior we ultimately see as negative -- it’s common to think that maybe they’re being difficult on purpose. In reality, they’re not CHOOSING to be negative. In this episode, you’ll learn why, from a scientific perspective, negative behavior is not a choice, what happens to big-feeling kids who are told their negative behavior is a choice, and how we can address frustrating behavior with Long Game parenting strategies that reduce shame and build skills.