I often hear from my clients the phrase, "If only…" If only my spouse would want more sex, then I could stop feeling so frustrated. If only my spouse would stop pressuring me for sex, then I could feel more comfortable with it. If only… Have you ever thought about how things would change "if only"? If you have, I bet that you have tried to change your spouse. You've bought them books, and sent them podcasts, and they have dug in their heels and stayed exactly the same. Why? Because no one wants to be controlled. That's why we're talking about changing your sexual locus of control in this episode. This is where real change happens. Want to see what you can do? Listen in.