Many women assume their lack of desire means something is wrong with them, but in this episode, I am going to explain that the real issue is often passive sexuality. We'll explore the difference between waiting for a spouse to create desire and actively engaging with your own sexuality. Through stories from real clients, I'll show how small shifts, like noticing attraction, savoring memories of intimacy, or anticipating connection, can gradually change how you experience your sexual relationship. I will also connect this idea to the principle of agency, reminding us that sexuality in marriage is something we can actively cultivate. By moving from passive to active sexuality, couples can experience deeper connection, more engagement, and a renewed sense of ownership in their intimate relationship.