No One Told Us

Episode 68: The Biggest Misconceptions About Attachment and "Gentle" Parenting with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe


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Do you ever feel confused about what "attachment parenting" or "gentle parenting" are? Do you ever feel like you're getting it all wrong, despite learning *all the things* from parenting experts online? You're not alone!

This week Rachael welcomes Dr. Vanessa Lapointe- mom, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker- to shed light on the misconceptions around this style of parenting and why it can feel so hard sometimes.

Inside this informative episode we hear from Dr. Vanessa all about parenting the child in front of us- keeping the relationship at the forefront. She discusses how we as parents can do the work on ourselves to cultivate what we want out of our children- without trying to change them!

Also discussed:

  • Holding boundaries and teaching respect
  • Healing inner wounds as parents and "reparenting" ourselves
  • The importance of Self-regulation and compassion
  • The misconception of "well behaved" children
  • Getting partners on board with this style of parenting
  • Navigating parenting info and trusting your inner wisdom

  • Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is a mom, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. She holds a doctoral degree in psychology, and practiced as a psychologist for nearly 20 years, before devoting her full-time energy to connecting with parents and other “big people” around the globe in 2023. Founder of The North Star Developmental Clinic, Dr. Vanessa has long been supporting families and children in her developmental clinic alongside her team and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way.


    Mentioned in this Episode:

    • Dr Vanessa Membership 
    • Discipline Without Damage Course
    • Navigating Anxiety in Childhood and Adolescence: The Online Course

    • Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

      Find Rachael: Instagram | Tiktok |  Website 

      ✨For gentle + responsive sleep support and parenting resources, visit heysleepybaby.com and follow @heysleepybaby on Instagram! 😴☁️🤎✨


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