*Note: This episode is about my goal to reduce the tension between those who stay in the Church and those who leave**

My friend Andy Newman (married father of three, Ex-Mormon, therapist, LGBTQ ally, bridge builder) joins for a series of episodes. In this episode, Andy talks about “the shame train” during his youth including:

*Porn, substance use, and working with his church leaders

* Shame around the “addiction label”, restrictions (temple trips), and falsely seeing himself as a “terrible addict”

* How porn/substance use was more about self-medicating from the shame and trauma than a desire to displease God

* How his worth become dependent on church leaders

* All the people who helped him along the way

Andy then talks about his road to be an LGBTQ ally:

* Started in high school in Iowa with proximity to queer people

* Felt he had to choose the Church over queer people

* Powerful post-mission experience giving a blessing to a queer student at BYU-I

* Fully taking on the ally role following the pulse nightclub shooting

* Staying in the church as an ally

* What led him to eventually leave the Church

Andy also talks about why he isn’t trying to get other people to leave the Church—but trying to build bridges of understanding. In the next episode, will talk about his mixed-faith marriage (Andy’s wife is active LDS) and how they have a beautiful/supportive marriage—including Andy attending church.

Thank you, my friend Andy, for being on the podcast and your great heart and clinical skills to help heal others and bring us together as the same human family. You are a good man and friend.

Links:

Psychology today:

www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/andy-newman-gilbert-az/974441

IG: www.instagram.com/andynewmanlpc/

TikTok:

www.tiktok.com/@deconstruction_therapy